What The Heck!

CandieCane12

I know weddings are stressful and can sometimes bring out the worst in some people but, this is much in my opinion. Let me give you some back story before I start my rant. I have known my MOH for going on 13 years and we are best friends. We are like sisters but things are just getting out of hand and its stressing me out. 

  In 2008 She decided to move to New York from a small town in Ohio to be with her boyfriend shortly after that they got engaged and she started planning her wedding. She made a friend of hers that she’d known for about the same amount of time her MOH and me a bridesmaid. I was a little upset but, soon got over it and was thankful she asked me to be in the wedding. She decided to wedding dress shopping in New York while her bridesmaids all but, one of us where at home in Ohio. Afterwards she sent photos to each of us. She came home in July to try on bridesmaids dresses and informed us that she’d already bought her dress and none of us got to be there when she got it. Soon after the wedding was canceled and she moved home.

Now to present day my fiancé and I are planning for a wedding in the spring of 2012. I ended up moving from Ohio to Kentucky to be with my fiancé after his deployment. I am now planning my wedding with a MOH whom has become very pushy. Mind you it’s a 5 ½ hour drive from where I live now to my hometown. A good friend and I went to look at wedding dresses this past weekend and my MOH flipped. She was like you shouldn’t be doing this. It’s unfair that we aren’t there and I don’t even known this girl. I’m becoming kind of concerned about her. It seems like she is trying to plan my wedding for me.  

I love her like a sister but, she is becoming a tad out of hand she was even made me cry over this stuff making me question each one of my decisions about my big day. I put my dress search on a hold until I go home in May but, still I don’t think this is fair to me. What am I to do? 

MrsMyrtle

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_heck-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:296d3a93-8083-4c77-9466-17899b7511caPost:7f1936f3-f714-48cc-b954-2d61d2338348">What The Heck!</a>:
[QUOTE]I know weddings are stressful and can sometimes bring out the worst in some people but, this is much in my opinion. Let me give you some back story before I start my rant. I have known my MOH for going on 13 years and we are best friends. We are like sisters but things are just getting out of hand and its stressing me out.    In 2008 She decided to move to New York from a small town in Ohio to be with her boyfriend shortly after that they got engaged and she started planning her wedding. She made a friend of hers that she’d known for about the same amount of time her MOH and me a bridesmaid. I was a little upset but, soon got over it and was thankful she asked me to be in the wedding. She decided to wedding dress shopping in New York while her bridesmaids all but, one of us where at home in Ohio. Afterwards she sent photos to each of us. She came home in July to try on bridesmaids dresses and informed us that she’d already bought her dress and none of us got to be there when she got it. Soon after the wedding was canceled and she moved home. Now to present day my fiancé and I are planning for a wedding in the spring of 2012. I ended up moving from Ohio to Kentucky to be with my fiancé after his deployment. I am now planning my wedding with a MOH whom has become very pushy. Mind you it’s a 5 ½ hour drive from where I live now to my hometown. A good friend and I went to look at wedding dresses this past weekend and my MOH flipped. She was like you shouldn’t be doing this. It’s unfair that we aren’t there and I don’t even known this girl. I’m becoming kind of concerned about her. It seems like she is trying to plan my wedding for me.   I love her like a sister but, she is becoming a tad out of hand she was even made me cry over this stuff making me question each one of my decisions about my big day. I put my dress search on a hold until I go home in May but, still I don’t think this is fair to me. What am I to do? 
Posted by CandieCane12[/QUOTE]
Stop including her. Let her be a whiny bitch. Learn to ignore her. 

TheDuckis

You are both ridiculous. It sounds to me like you were disappointed that she didn't include you in her dress shopping, in which case you'd think you'd be a little more understanding of her feelings in the current situation.

At the same time, it's insane for either of you to expect to do this together when you don't even live in the same state.

I'm filing this under drama for drama's sake. You both need to chill, and stop looking at your friendship as a contest.

perkins81

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_heck-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:47Discussion:296d3a93-8083-4c77-9466-17899b7511caPost:52ee04e8-bf99-4ce8-ac93-398dd1ecf43e">Re: What The Heck!</a>:
[QUOTE]You are both ridiculous. It sounds to me like you were disappointed that she didn't include you in her dress shopping, in which case you'd think you'd be a little more understanding of her feelings in the current situation. At the same time, it's insane for either of you to expect to do this together when you don't even live in the same state. I'm filing this under drama for drama's sake. You both need to chill, and stop looking at your friendship as a contest.
Posted by TheDuckis[/QUOTE]

Ditto. I was overseas when my best friend planned her wedding. I didn't get to go dress shopping, or have any say in the BM dresses. The other bridesmaid did all the planning with the bride. They ordered my dress for me based on my measurements and mailed it to me after I got back to the states. Then I tried it on and got it altered. I drove about 8 hours to her wedding a couple days prior and had no responsibilities - nothing to offer except my warm smile and a huge congrats. And that's all that was needed. The other BM took care of everything since she lived in town. Neither of us were MOH, but the other BM did all the things a MOH would do. The point is, when you live away from each other, it's a matter of being practical. Whoever is closest will help plan the wedding. Simple as that. So stay calm about it and assure your MOH that she is still the MOH and try to include her whenever possible. Best of luck!

MinM

Get over yourself & this.

Iluvev85

she could be jealous of you since she didn't get a wedding of her own so now shes trying to take over yours...