IHO LoveMuffin, because I'm such a welcoming sort, a poll

ReturnOfKuus

How many of your youthful relationships did you genuinely think would end in marriage?  Please describe why they didn't; for this answer I will not accept "because I was 12, weirdo".

arbolita

Yes.
He's gay.

**O-Face**

Yes, one.  My first love.  He broke up with me during college because I was away and he was at home.  He later regretted it and followed me around an entire night, doing a drunken "your H doesn't know you like I do!".  What.

LoveMuffins

Hahaha Yay for me? Maybe? lol.

Just the one... since it's the only relationship that I've had other than FI. I'm a serial monogamist.

LoveMuffins

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[QUOTE]Yes. He's gay.
Posted by arbolita[/QUOTE]

You know... I'm not sure that'd be a deal breaker for some of my friends. LOL.

mrsconn23

I did.  It ended because I moved 3.5 hours away and neither one of our parents (wisely) would let us drive to see each other. 

But we were totally in L-O-V-E and it took about a year after I moved for us to end it.  We would send each other the sappiest letters.  I give myself the icks just thinking about it.

We stayed friends for several years.  He came to town a couple times to see Dave Matthews concerts and I would see him when he was here.  He's a pilot and we lost touch when his hours picked up and he was doing a lot more international routes. 

ReturnOfKuus

When I was in the ninth grade and had my very first boyfriend, I had this weird panic of "OMG this is never going to end, and I'm going to be that person who dates one person all through high school and college and then gets married and he won't leave until one of us dies."  I did not understand the concept of the breakup.

Butter Cookie

2. The first one didn't work out because we were too young and immature to make good decisions, plus we were really crappy to each other.

I never intended to marry my first H.

The second ended in marriage.

E Squared

2.

One, he broke it off because he could see himself marrying me, and, at 16, it freaked him out too much.

The second did end up working out.

AuntFlo

I was certain HS boyfriend and I would get married after college.   And then he broke up with me.   And then we got together agian.  And then I broke up with him.  ANd then we got together again.   And then he decided to lead a double life and start a family (accidentelly, but still) in another state.  And I STILL thought there might be a chance we would get married. 
Until one day, he gave me a card (birthday I think) and he had spelled my name wrong on it.   Somehow, cheating was a forgiveable offense but spelling my name wrong was not.    I woke up and broke things off for good and I've never looked back.
This all started the ball rolling to lead me to DH, so I'm not sorry any of it happened even if I was pretty stupid.

LoveMuffins

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[QUOTE]2. The first one didn't work out because we were too young and immature to make good decisions, plus we were really crappy to each other.<strong> I never intended to marry my first H</strong>. The second ended in marriage.
Posted by Butter Cookie[/QUOTE]

Is there a story behind how that happened that you wouldn't mind sharing? No prob if you're not into it, it just made me super curious! =)

zsazsa-stl

Just 1.  But man, I was head over heels for him.  I didn't see my life going down any other path.  Thankfully he did because my life is better for it now.

Butter Cookie

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: IHO LoveMuffin, because I'm such a welcoming sort, a poll : Is there a story behind how that happened that you wouldn't mind sharing? No prob if you're not into it, it just made me super curious! =)
Posted by LoveMuffins[/QUOTE]


Emotional blackmail and young 19 year old stupidity, really.

6fsn

I could have seen marrying my hs boyfriend.  He thought I was cheating. so I did cheat on him.  He did end up marrying my hs best friend.

There was one other person that I loved with all of my heart.  I still love him in some way, but we wanted different things out of life.  While he was great for the time, he would not be a great match now.

L_Woods

One.

We were "engaged" (I was 15 and naive, it was more like promise ringed) right before went to boot camp. He wrote letters. I wrote letters. He broke up with me because he was going to Germany for two years, but I promised I would wait. Then I went on a date with his BFF, we hung out for a month or so, but nothing really. The next time I heard from BFF he called, I heard his voice and the first thing out of my mouth was "How did he die?" I just knew somehow. Anyway, we never got married because a) at the ripe age of 16 I wasn't so good at the lifelong commitment thing (though I was forgiven for my indiscretion and he maintained promised w/out being promised status), and b) he died.

LoveMuffins

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: IHO LoveMuffin, because I'm such a welcoming sort, a poll : Emotional blackmail and young 19 year old stupidity, really.
Posted by Butter Cookie[/QUOTE]

Oh wow... glad to know that you have a happy ending after all that at least =)

ReturnOfKuus

I did meet this one guy on vacation when I was 17 that I thought was just perfect for me.  We just really hit it off for some reason.  Anyway, we wrote to each other back and forth for a while, and then he stopped writing to me, and I never knew why.  Years later when my parents were moving, I cleaned out my old room really well and found my last letter to the guy, sealed and stamped and everything, behind my desk, never mailed.  Turns out I was the one who stopped writing, and I never knew it.

baconsmom

None. Why would I think that at 16 or 17 I'd meet marriage material? Psh. 

Also, at that point I was planning on a life of genteel dissolution, and planned to be a functioning alcoholic writer with a string of lovers. I still like that dream. I may spend my middle age trying to create it. Hope H doesn't mind.

Honestly, I didn't think I could marry anyone until H, and that was because I was ready to be married, and had my sht sorted, and told him all my dealbreaking opinions before we even kissed. When he agreed with them all, I started to think there might be something there. 

ReturnOfKuus

Oh, baconsmom, we could be soulmates.  I was going to bring back the golden age of film musical and have a string of wild love affairs, too.  Of course, I started rethinking the love affairs when I got into high school and saw how fragile boys seemed.  I didn't want to hurt anyone.

Butter Cookie

Yeah H is pretty much the best guy ever. He's not a saint or anything, and sometimes I want to junkpunch him, but I always love him and always feel respected as I respect him.

baconsmom

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[QUOTE]Oh, baconsmom, we could be soulmates.  I was going to bring back the golden age of film musical and have a string of wild love affairs, too.  Of course, I started rethinking the love affairs when I got into high school and saw how fragile boys seemed.  <strong>I didn't want to hurt anyone.</strong>
Posted by ReturnOfKuus[/QUOTE]
Oh, I was looking forward to that part. But I was already bitter at that age. 

ReturnOfKuus

I'm all soft underbelly.

LoveMuffins

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[QUOTE]Yeah H is pretty much the best guy ever. He's not a saint or anything, and sometimes I want to junkpunch him, but I always love him and always feel respected as I respect him.
Posted by Butter Cookie[/QUOTE]

Hahahaha... omg that's exactly how I feel! I love the phrasing.

blush64

I didn't think any of my youthful relationships would end in marriage including the one that did. (long story there and we are divorced now)  I just didn't see myself wanting to be with any of them forever. I guess I always thought when it was 'the one' it would feel different and none of them gave that feeling. I also thought I might prefer staying single forever and having a great time alone.

I grew up and ended up finding real love with my fiance. (by mistake, we were only supposed to be friends because we didn't want a relationship)