I feel so sad today...My mother is not a fan of my inlaws and believe they are taking over all the wedding planning. But to me the Inlaws are very nice people and my mother doesn't make an effort to get to know them. She has her own preconceived ideas about them being backwards. However my mother is hardly around to really get into wedding spirit, shes always out and about doing her own thing. And when I try to include her she just says "she is busy". I think she is a bit uneasy about me spending so much time with my inlaws, but they make me feel comfortable and I enjoy their company. My mother has the wrong Idea about them. Initially I wanted a wedding in a temple, not a community hall....but due to time constraints, costs this was not possible. So I had to make a compromise and that too I included both my parents. My inlaws want to invite about 400 of their guests, and we may have about 200 of ours. So 600 people....at a wedding has become an issue for my mother as she thinks this is an insane amount. I agree it is pretty harsh having 600 people at a wedding. These days in the financial climate its just a pain in the arse and just makes it hard on the brides family as they are the ones in charge of wedding preparation for this. Anyway, so the arrangements are made to cater for 600 people and now my mother says to me having looked at the venue and saying venue is okay. She says to me "I hate that venue" I mean seriously! What the F!!!
The inlaws organise a priest but its not good enough for my mother as she wants to organise this, so i tell my fiance to hold off on the priest as mum has someone in mind. But this is not good enough for her, I say maybe its best you talk to the inlaws directly and tell them what you want because, she thinks im being bossy. I am the oldest daughter in the family, 29 and come from a traditional to modern style family. My family are scattered in the USA, Australia and Fiji. And you know what... none of them will come to my wedding, that disheartens me...but at the end of the day I will be living with my husband so I guess if I have lasted 26 years without them then it really does not matter. But It still makes me feel sad. Anyway I am in no mood to even get married now, I haven't told my fiance what my mother has been saying...I don't want him to get the wrong or shall i say the right idea that my MOTHER does not like his parents...I just don't know what to do.