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OMG. From where I cheat

I'm sad I don't know how old she is:

ok...my boyfriend of 6 yrs proposed last sat. It was so sweet. He had asked my dad for permission and my children, it was perfect. When he gave me the ring, I exclaimed "is it real?" and he said "well you wondered where my paychecks went"...we laughed....next few days I kept asking questions about my ring. He said it is 1.5 carats, he got paperwork on it, I told him its huge and he got me a rock! I sent pics to everyone and everyone also says wow what a rock. I told him I felt like I would be robbed, everything I said, he went along with and kept me going.

Well I found out, unentionally that he bought my ring on ebay for $10 and it's not a CZ but a lab made stone. I confronted him after feeling ill and crying. How could he lie to me? How could he what my face and then just continue to let me believe something that wasnt true. He said he thought it would be ugly for $10 but once he got it, he loved it and he figured he would tell me "sometime".

Please understand that this guy has given me a ton of gifts, Ipod touch, laptop, 3 other rings....but then the most important gift he could ever giveme, he spent $10 on? So yes, Im upset about 2 things. #1,...The lying makes my stomach sick. Ive been with him 6 yrs. He knows I would of been happy with a piece of string. As long as he told me it was string and didnt try to play it off as something else. He should know he could of talked to me about anything and if he feels he cant then why should we marry?

This will be my 3rd marriage. I never wanted to do this again unless I was 100% sure it was right, and to go into it starting with a lie really bothers me. Yes he's apologized. #2....$10??? Come on now. I feel insulted. It would of never have mattered the price of the ring if it was done in honesty, but now that it was brought to my attention in a lie, it does matter that it was $10. Theyre two rings so that makes them $5 a piece. I just dont know what to do or how to feel. Ive sat in bed all day going over this.

Do I just forget it and be happy he proposed or what do I do? It would help if he said "I will never lie to you again", but he hasnt. He has just said he didnt think it mattered then when he saw how happy I was, he didnt want to diappoint me. BUt what if I had went to the jewelers and found out that way? How embarrassing.

I dont want to be materalistic but at the same time, every girl dreams of this and how its supposed to be. And even though I was married twice before, it was because I had kids. There was no "real" wedding and the marriages sucked. I was young. Please help with some advice. I feel bad for being depressed about this, he has seen me, but what do I do, say or feel??? HELP!!
"I would be sad if sex was only about the climax, lame." Someone who is obviously doing it wrong
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Re: OMG. From where I cheat

  • hmonkeyhmonkey member
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    edited December 2011
    [QUOTE]He knows I would of been happy with a piece of string. [/QUOTE]

    there, there dear.  we know you're a liar too, so maybe this means you and he are mfeo.
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  • edited December 2011
    Ha. $10.

    He should have asked her to sell the other two rings, and bought a new one.
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  • edited December 2011

    You guys are missing the point. WHERE WERE THE PAYCHECKS GOING?!?!?

    "I would be sad if sex was only about the climax, lame." Someone who is obviously doing it wrong
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  • lilcasserslilcassers member
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    edited December 2011
    Seriously... dump his butt. That is ridiculous. He will probably lie about other things too.
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  • edited December 2011

    Oh! I have a feeling his paychecks weren't anythnig to write home about either.

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  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_omg-cheat?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:47Discussion:313907e2-8e9b-4e00-9120-868fcc2e4872Post:905d2017-9b3a-4974-8bf3-c3555bd2973d">Re: OMG. From where I cheat</a>:
    [QUOTE]Oh! I have a feeling his paychecks weren't anythnig to write home about either.
    Posted by NOLABridesmaid[/QUOTE]

    Maybe not, but I would want to know where they went before I sent his ass packing.
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  • edited December 2011
    I think it's time to call Cheaters.
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  • hmonkeyhmonkey member
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    edited December 2011

    hopefully, they were going into his divorce fund because he knows it's coming.

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  • LnR70707LnR70707 member
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    edited December 2011
    I am sad I can't see a picture of this clusterf_ck of a ring. 
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