Wedding Woes

IDK if it's me or DH...(ranty, sorry)

But I've been feeling like we've either both been irritable lately or one of us is irritable and the other is reacting.   I feel like DH has been really snippy lately, which makes me snippy.  But I've also been feeling a LOT more tired (like barely can get out of bed most mornings without 'pep talking' myself that I 'can do it') and being tired makes me super irritable. 

And we argued about Baby C's name again last night.  He wants to name him for his friend that died and I'm just not feeling it.  Yeah, the guy introduced us, but that's about the only good thing he did for me because I thought he was an asshole the rest of the time.  It's sad he died...especially since he left behind 3 kids.  But I didn't like him and that's not going to change because he's dead.

DH says he wants to feel a 'connection' to Baby C's name (meaning he wants to name him for someone) and I'm a lot less sentimental about it.  The kid is getting my middle name, which is a family name.  The kiddo is "DH the third".  I would rather go with a name that's NOT prevalant in either of our families.  DH says he doesn't want to "just pick a name out of a book."  ::sigh::

And now typing this all out, I want to cry.  Damn hormones.  Five and half more weeks.  Blerg.

Re: IDK if it's me or DH...(ranty, sorry)

  • tawillerstawillers member
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    edited December 2011
    ::hugs::  Names are hard. 
  • 6fsn6fsn member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm sorry.  The only things I can suggest are to let him know just how tired you are and that you know you are being snippy.  DH had no idea just how tired and overwhelmed I was.  It also helped take the edge off when he knew that I knew I was being snotty.  I know full well I was starting it, but he was reacting.  When I acknowledged this he stopped reacting.

    As for names.  Table the discussion or set ground rules.  You each get to pick 5 names and you get one total veto for whatever reason.  Take the last 8 names to the hospital and pick then.  Or use AF's spreadsheet.  You don't need a name right now.  You don't even need one when you leave the hospital.

    If it makes you feel better, I snapped at DH at peeling the painters tape off last night.  He was peeling and dropping f-bombs because some of the paint was coming up too.  I told him to leave it and I'd do it.  He insisted on continuing so I told him he'd have to do all of the fixing too.  Why would you continue doing what was causing more damage instead of finding a new way to do it?
  • Butter CookieButter Cookie member
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    edited December 2011
    Does he realize he'll feel a connection to any name you give the kid since, after all, it will be his child?
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  • edited December 2011
    I'm tired and cranky on a regular basis, so I can't imagine how you're feeling when it's amplified by pregnancy/hormones.   ::hugs::   I think 6 has a good suggestion with how to deal with naming.   And BC is right.
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  • mrsconn23mrsconn23 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_idk-its-dhranty-sorry?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:31e69c65-8eb7-4f72-8023-eff689eaede4Post:f7c5674e-01ce-4d9e-8d4b-a406e34dd2ec">Re: IDK if it's me or DH...(ranty, sorry)</a>:
    [QUOTE]Does he realize he'll feel a connection to any name you give the kid since, after all, it will be his child?
    Posted by Butter Cookie[/QUOTE]

    That's exactly what I told him BC. 
  • ReturnOfKuusReturnOfKuus member
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    edited December 2011
    I definitely think he's weird for suggesting that the two of you name the kid after someone you didn't like.  But I also wonder, since the two of you have been snippy, if on some level he's picking names that will start a fight.  How long has it been since the two of you have had sex?
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  • mrsconn23mrsconn23 member
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    edited December 2011
    He's just been short/snippy in general.  I'm wondering if he's just starting to get on edge about me going into labor(which could feasibly happen any time now) or having a newborn or something else.  I know his job has been really busy for him because they have a guy out on medical leave and they haven't decided to back-fill him yet.

    The name thing we've been butting heads on since we found out we were having a boy.

    We had sex last week.  We've been averaging about once a week or so.  Sometimes a little longer in between. 



  • ReturnOfKuusReturnOfKuus member
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    edited December 2011
    Maybe with the added stress and all, it's time to do it every other day or so.
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