because my family is weird and crazy.
Since mom told me (alone, w/o dad or the Mr) about her cancer yesterday...I was caught extra-off guard.
I promised her I'd let her tell my sisters.
I lied. And don't feel guilty :-P
Normally, I'd feel bad but...my family is really REALLy weird about health things and they work under misguided attempts to 'protect' us (which just results in us being UBER paranoid--I mean, nothing like not being told your dad spent the night in the ER after nearly dying and falling off a roof to make you fly out of work to get to the hosptial--nevermind that the reason they didn't tell me was that fact that they didn't want me to miss work and stress' needlessly'
I've missed funerals over this sort of crap)
My parents have known about this for quite some time and are just now telling us.
Since baby-sis lives on the other side of the country, I'm fairly sure that they're going to do the 'well, I didn't want to tell you over the phone' thing to her--she's not planning on flying back until Buffy is born in Sept--that's to long.
So I called her and told her w/ the caveat she's NOT to let mom figure out she knows.
And in selfish reasonsI was caught so off guard yesterday that I didn't ask any of the important questions either--(extra issues w/ trying to ask my mom questions and get accurate info--the whole mentally not-right thing means she makes up answers sometimes--and believes them) so I figure that we can use being slightly forewarned to be slightly forearmed and babysis can ask good questions and we can feel less clueless. She and I are both googling.
(and, in the interest of fairness, I'll call bigsis w/ the info tonight even though mom will probalby tell her when she sees her later this week. But my sisters and I are all about being 'united' when it comes to my parents :-P)