Ring Question

HorseShoeLuck

For my engagement ring, my fiance used his mother's ring - it's beautiful, but it's gold and I'm not a gold person.  Can yellow gold rings be replated?  I believe for the time being, we're having it double as my wedding ring -- and his ring will be white gold and to me they'd look funny one being yellow gold and one being white gold.

~~Busy.~~

I would be insulted if I were his mother. Give the ring back and get your own ring.

baconsmom

You can reset the stone. I got an heirloom ring, as well, but the original band didn't fit my finger. We took the stone in its setting and re-banded it, and kept the original band in case I pass the ring on again and whoever gets it wants the original band.

NOLABridesmaid

You can use the stone in a different ring.

You should talk with your FI about it, but be prepared if he doesn't want to do it.

baconsmom

Well, it was a gift, Zilla. Even if she's alive, she should realize that people have different tastes and that styles change. Jewelry resetting used to be common - every woman who married into the family would get to reset the jewels as she pleased, and people couldn't get pissed, because they were her jewels now. 

This ring is the OP's now. If the mother didn't want it changed, she shouldn't have given it to her.

~~Busy.~~

If the Mom is alive then I find it very insensative.  Perhaps I care too much about feelings.

HorseShoeLuck

Ms. Busy perhaps you don't know that we're already discussed the fact that she and future husband are ok with the idea of it and my post wasn't about checking with people's feelings - it was about how the ring would look if it were replated ... and if we didn't have it done if it would look odd for fh to have a white gold band while I had a gold ring.  I was looking for answers from people who may have had it done before.  I think you should actual read the question or ask for details before jumping to questions or jumping to conclusions about being "insensitive."  You don't know the details behind the ring nor the mother's feelings towards the ring anyway before it became mine or was passed down to me.  So I am highly insulted by your responses if you really care about people's feelings then you should watch what you say or get facts before you jump to posting the things you did.

Thank you to those who answered the real question -- I heard about people replating white gold rings every year or two, but never replating a yellow gold ring so was unsure if it'd be possible.  I'll go talk to a jeweler yet - just wanted to get an idea first from people who have done it before whether to waste my time going that step or not yet.  Thanks again.

~~Busy.~~

"  So I am highly insulted by your responses if you really care about people's feelings then you should watch what you say or get facts before you jump to posting the things you did."

hahahahhahahahahha

baconsmom

What a touchy bitch, yo.

Sorry, Z. My pills just kicked in, and I feel good, but I'm not exactly smrt right now.

~~Busy.~~

All I said was give the ring back if she didn't like it.  My view, the mom has been wearing that ring as a symbol of her love with her husband.    There is a strong emotional attachment to it.  She would like her FDIL to have it and then the DIL is like "eeeewww, yellow gold! nasty old yellow gold, I need to dip it for it to be on my finger"

It would be better just to buy a ring that suits her tastes.

The OP is probably calling everyone about how mean I was when I wasn't.  This amuses me.

HorseShoeLuck

OMG .. you all are unreal.  No wonder I stay away from these boards.  I simply asked a question - was told that I should give the ring back by Ms. Busy and then was told that I was being insensitive or insulting to his mother?  Ms. Busy jumped straight to her own conclusion and FH and his mother's opinion was not needed for the original post, anyone could have asked me if they were ok with it before assuming things - again I simply asked if it could be done, that was the question  ... this has gotten out of hand thanks to y'all.    

Now who wants to be the pot or the kettle? 

jojobrn

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_ring-question-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:33b2a4e4-d590-4768-8232-89be08ea853fPost:8f061bbc-01ba-4003-9256-333eab133528">Re: Ring Question</a>:
[QUOTE]OMG .. you all are unreal.  No wonder I stay away from these boards.  I simply asked a question - was told that I should give the ring back by Ms. Busy and then was told that I was being insensitive or insulting to his mother?  Ms. Busy jumped straight to her own conclusion and FH and his mother's opinion was not needed for the original post, anyone could have asked me if they were ok with it before assuming things - again I simply asked if it could be done, that was the question  ... this has gotten out of hand thanks to y'all.     Now who wants to be the pot or the kettle? 
Posted by HorseShoeLuck[/QUOTE]

<div>This is out of hand? Standards have dropped around these parts.</div><div>
</div><div>And to be fair, you asked for opinions and Busy gave hers. You just didn't agree with it. She didn't call you or your fiancé names, she offered her opinion. Grow up.</div>

~~Busy.~~

If you want a simple "on topic" answer then post a barebones question, without extraneous data, such as :"has anyone ever changed a yellow gold ring to a white gold ring."

See, it's not that hard.  Now go wash your face, calm down and have a cookie.

Cant_wait!

Also, that's MRS. Busy to you. Rude.

HorseShoeLuck

Oh I am relaxed Zilla, I am grateful for those who gave actual possible solutions to the question at hand.  And yes it is my choice on what advice I follow, if any, but the negative remarks to give the ring back and that I was being insenistive and insulting the mother are out of line without asking for the facts before making allegations.