Annoyed and at a loss and sis annoyed at me (long)

6fsn

My mom turns 65 the day after M2's baptism.  That's also my brother's bday and close to 2 of my nieces bdays.  My brother will be in town for the baptism and we talked about having nieces' bday party that Saturday.  My other brother said "we should do something for mom" that weekend.  While I agree in theory I know neither brother will help think of something so the subject sort of got dropped.

Sis sent out an e-mail asking if we were going to do anything for mom.  I know she was looking for ideas, but I just don't have any.  I sent a short reply "I'm up for anything."  I realized after the fact she has to think I'm putting the ball in her court, but haven't been able to talk to her to tell her that wasn't my intention.  I'll help plan/ cook/buy whatever I just don't have ideas right now. 

Blerg.  I know bro is thinking dinner out or something, but the logistics really bite for us.  They'll want to do it in C-bus which is 1.5 hrs away.  I don't particularly want to be getting home at 11 pm the night before we are having a house full.  Plus I want the kids rested.  I don't know if that would happen with a sitter.

I'd love to just think of an exceptional gift and give it to her at the Saturday
afternoon party for my nieces.  Again though, I have nothing in mind. 

I'm annoyed that my brothers are never the idea or organizing people.  Sure they'll throw in money or say we should do something.  It's always my sister and I doing it though. 

I'm also a little scared that M2's baptism will be an after thought.  I want this to be just as special as 6let's and every other kids.  I don't want it to be "one more event shoved into a packed weekend."  KWIM?

Maybe some coffee will help me feel better.

6fsn

It is easier on paper.  I already know the one bro's thought is a long, pricey dinner downtown.  That's great if you have no other responsibilities, your kids are over 10, and you don't care about the money. 

Other brother just smiles and you let him get away with it because he's him.  For some reason we never get mad at him.  I'm certain when sis and I talk we'll be upset at one brother, but not the other.  I know it's wrong too.

I haven't been able to get sis on the phone so I did send an e-mail and apolobize.  I know she is very busy- they just had a 1st Communion and are in the middle of remodeling both of their offices top to bottom.  For fun they also decided to remodel a bathroom at home. 

I hope we can come up with an inspired gift.  The best ones so far have been the hot air balloon ride and paying for their car rental when they went to Ireland. 

6fsn

Plans are pretty basic- baptism after 1030 Mass, then back to the house.  I booked a caterer- chicken in light cream sauce, parsley potatoes, fruit salad, vegetable medley, rolls, peaches and cream cheesecake delivered and set up (for $9 pp).  I'm going to add a pasta salad, green salad, deviled eggs, and chocolate cake.  We'll have between 20 and 30, 35 max.