On a deep and personal level, I just don't get this.

ReturnOfKuus

http://community.thenest.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/49377219.aspx

She's a sophomore in college, and just got married and bought a house, and now she's desperate for a baby.  Can you explain to me why and how a college kid is desperate for the life of a 35 year old right now right now right now?  Does no one have a good time being young any more?

NOLABridesmaid

I don't understand this either, but know a few chicks that did it. Your life changes so much after kids, and why not do everything you want to do before going down that road.

I understand the appeal of being a young mom, and having them all out of the house by your late 40's, but it is a trade off, like everything else in life.

ReturnOfKuus

I know no one who did this, or was even trying to do this.  Not a single soul.

NOLABridesmaid

Not one?

One of my good friends decided to get married her Junior year of college. I thought she was crazy, but supported her decision. He was and is a good guy, and they are still married 16 years later, but I thought they both were crazy at the time.

MinM

Me either, Kuus. But I was visiting a friend, who is much younger than me (just starting med school) and he had all these STDs on his fridge. I said, these people all look too young to be getting married. He said that is how they do it in this town.

WTDuck?

I have some cousins that started having kids when they were 23-24, but this is ridiculous. When I was in college a husband and kids were the last thing on my mind.

ReturnOfKuus

I know Pittsburgh is a hick city where the mullet is still worn proudly, but things like this make me feel like it's an uber-hip metropolis.

MinM

When I was in college, more school was my only focus. I don't even understand how H got married in graduate school. I guess since I planned the wedding, all he had to do was show up to a few meetings and the actual wedding.

InksWell

Ew. I know a few kids at the college doing this. All I can think is "I know how much tuition we charge, How are you affording this?" AND they meet one semester and are engaged over the next break. The Christian Ministry students are the worst.

I think it happens at our school because these conservative kids don't believe in living together, or having sex before marriage, or birth control.

Callmebetty

I don't get it either.  One of my best childhood friends sort of did this.  She had graduated college already, but then immediately met a guy, married him, and now has two kids all within two years.  It was extremely bizarre, and appeared to be totally out of character for her.  We don't really talk much anymore. 

Maybe it's because my parents had me later in life, but I don't get the appeal of being a "young mom" at all.  

   

Heffalump

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_deep-personal-level-just-dont-this?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:47Discussion:359e0828-5fd9-42d8-82c0-1f9e4ea6365cPost:3d89c1c8-32a3-4918-ac78-cd743082b537">Re: On a deep and personal level, I just don't get this.</a>:
[QUOTE]I understand the appeal of being a young mom, and having them all out of the house by your late 40's, but it is a trade off, like everything else in life.
Posted by NOLABridesmaid[/QUOTE]
I don't even understand the appeal of being a young mom.  I mean, I get the part about having them out of the house before you start collecting social security, but on the whole it seems like a bad deal.  But maybe I was just selfish in my twenties.  The thought of having to look after anything more dependent than a cat gave me hives.

hmonkey

i knew a guy in college who was married, as in, entered college married.  i just can't imagine having to live in a dorm room with roommates while your wife lived with your parents in another town.  thankfully, he was the nicest guy in the world and went home every weekend to be with her.  i assumed she was pregnant but no.

beyond that, i knew people who moved in together as sophomores after having dated their WHOLE freshman year (there's a commitment) and then spent junior and senior year trying to get their stuff back.

ReturnOfKuus

"beyond that, i knew people who moved in together as sophomores after having dated their WHOLE freshman year (there's a commitment) and then spent junior and senior year trying to get their stuff back."

(quote function doesn't work for me)

THIS I did see.

MinM

I had a BF freshmen year and we dated through my sophmore year. By junior year I had another couple of guys. By my senior year, everyone just wanted to have creepy random hookup sex and I steered clear of that (and STDs!). No one in my peer group was married until I went to graduate school, and even them it was weird. Still is, and we are the married ones. Only a few people we know have kids.

GBCK

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_deep-personal-level-just-dont-this?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:47Discussion:359e0828-5fd9-42d8-82c0-1f9e4ea6365cPost:aaba8647-a981-420f-be1d-23327352fda8">Re: On a deep and personal level, I just don't get this.</a>:
[QUOTE]I know Pittsburgh is a hick city where the mullet is still worn proudly, but things like this make me feel like it's an uber-hip metropolis.
Posted by ReturnOfKuus[/QUOTE]

Urban vs. rural.
90% of my friends dropped out for marriage and babies before getting their bachelor's