Mom Wants To Stay Over, But............

Wicked515

My fiancé and I are moving into our new place this April, and our wedding is in October. Planning a wedding and getting our place settled is a little stressful, as you might know. My mom and I tend to fight, a lot. Let's just say she doesn't make things easy. For my wedding I made plans that my mom and two bridesmaids (they all get along) stay at a hotel together to save money. Now my Mom is asking me to stay at my place, but she won't be there the wedding night, she also wants us to drive her to CT (we're in Brooklyn) to visit some family. I'm gonna be honest, I don't care if you're not gonna be there the wedding night, I don't want ANYONE staying at my place. They're gonna be in the way, we have to feed them. It's just more stress! Plus, she's had over a year to save up money, and she didn't. I'm probably being a major B***H, but I just know she will cause more stress and do nothing but complain. What should I do?

Butter Cookie

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[QUOTE]My fiancé and I are moving into our new place this April, and our wedding is in October. Planning a wedding and getting our place settled is a little stressful, as you might know. My mom and I tend to fight, a lot. Let's just say she doesn't make things easy. For my wedding I made plans that my mom and two bridesmaids (they all get along) stay at a hotel together to save money. Now my Mom is asking me to stay at my place, but she won't be there the wedding night, she also wants us to drive her to CT (we're in Brooklyn) to visit some family. I'm gonna be honest, I don't care if you're not gonna be there the wedding night, I don't want ANYONE staying at my place. They're gonna be in the way, we have to feed them. It's just more stress! Plus, she's had over a year to save up money, and she didn't. I'm probably being a major B***H, but I just know she will cause more stress and do nothing but complain. What should I do?
Posted by Wicked515[/QUOTE]

Tell her no. How totally thoughtless of her.

~~Busy.~~

That mom is poison, never trust a big butt and a smile.

ReturnOfKuus

She wants you to host a guest and chauffeur her around the week of your wedding?  Hell no.  What is she thinking?!

DG1

ball up and say "NO." 

If she literally, truly doesn't have enough $ for the hotel, you might need to pay for her share to avoid more drama, but it'll be worth it.

baconsmom

"I'm sorry, that won't be possible."

Repeat as necessary. 

Wicked515

Ok, thanks everyone. I thought I was just being crazy or too difficult, but now I know I'm not haha!!!