What.

baconsmom

DEAR ABBY: My adult daughter, "Suzie," spent the weekend at our home, bringing along her boyfriend of six months. This was "Liam's" first visit.I allowed them to share Suzie's old bedroom, which we have converted into a family office. We keep a large futon in there for my daughter when she comes to visit. I didn't make a big deal out of where Liam and Suzie should sleep because I didn't want to embarrass them, and I was sure there would be no "hanky-panky" because our bedroom is right across the hall.Well, I was wrong. In the middle of the night I was awakened by Suzie's squeals and moans. Fortunately, my husband is a sound sleeper. The next morning, while my husband was out on his daily run, I let the kids have it -- to the point of slapping Liam around a little. I told Suzie her actions were disrespectful and I was highly disappointed in her.Suzie and I are no longer speaking and I am miserable. Do you think I overreacted? Did I silently give permission for such behavior by allowing them to share the same futon? And did Liam really think it would be OK to have sex in my home? -- MISERABLE MOM IN WISCONSIN

baconsmom

She's a moron. Of course sex might happen if they're in the same bed. Duh. 

I'd just turn my TV up and ignore it. Would you not have sex in your parent's house if you visited overnight? It wouldn't occur to me to abstain just because I'm in someone else's house.

VarunaTT

I'd let my daughter and her boyfriend sleep together in the house.  Hell, they're in college, I'm not stupid.  HOWEVER, I would expect them to be QUIET it about it.  Don't rub it in my face.  No matter what, I don't think I'd ever be totally comfortable with realizing my child is a sexual object as well. 

mrsconn23

I think Suzi knew mommy was a sneaky-sneakerson and she wanted to piss her off.  That's my opinion.

baconsmom

I mean, this is one of those things that you should just ignore. Like when someone farts - I don't expect an adult to be all "EW! You farted! You're a total fartypants!" if someone lets one slip. I don't think it really makes a difference if the guest is your kid or your friend or a relative.

Mrs.Thistletwat

Suzie was an idiot. Have sex but do it quietly. Hell, if H and I are at my IL's we sleep in a bedroom on a different floor and we're still uber quiet if we get the urge. Hell, we've stopped because the bed squeaked.

loveshine1

If Suzie was planning to get her freak on with Liam, that's perfectly fine. But be respectful -- and quiet.

And for mom to slap Liam around a bit, that is just wrong.

I wouldn't talk to my mom either. WTF?

*Barbie*

Suzie needs to learn to get it on quietly. 

hmonkey

[QUOTE]It wouldn't occur to me to abstain just because I'm in someone else's house.
Posted by baconsmom[/QUOTE]

what?  i would.  just because i'm on loaned sheets doesn't mean that i should soil them as much as i possibly could.

Sloane99

I wouldn't abstain either, but I wouldn't want to hear my hosts having sex while I'm there, for that reason I would extend the same courtesy to do so quietly.

MrsMyrtle

There's something about being in someone else's home (especially if it's a parent's house) that really kills the mood. I don't know how y'all get your freak on when your parents are in the next room.

Lauriac

I wouldn't have sex in my parents' house. I would NEVER EVER have sex in FI's parents' house.

However, if my mother "slapped around" FI for anything short of murdering me, I would never talk to her again.

TheDuckis

This is where H and I are opposites. He thinks doing it in my parents house is exciting. I think worrying about every time the bed creaks completely destroys the mood. We did it once, I doubt we'll do it again unless they replace the bed in the guest room.

Funny story, when we were home my grandparents and sister were also there. They tried to get us to take the room with twin beds. Yeah.

~~Busy.~~

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[QUOTE] just because i'm on loaned sheets doesn't mean that i should soil them as much as i possibly could.
Posted by hmonkey[/QUOTE]

Ha! 
I love that she slaped Liam around a bit.  this is cracking me up.  I'm with WW on this (we've had this discussion before) no one is having sex in my house unless they are married.  They can stay in seperate beds and or stay at a hotel.

6fsn

I've never had the urge to have sex in someone else's home.  We can certainly go a day without.  Then again when we are at my parents we're lucky to have a bed. 

baconsmom

Mostly I was appalled by the "slapping him around" bit. 

And when we visit people, we always have a room with a closeable door, and of course are quiet. But we all know I'm a lot less squicked about sex than most people. 

katorigasuki

she's an idiot.

first for expecting her daughter and her bf of six months to not get it on when they are allowed to sleep in the same room.

2nd for slapping the kid around.  WTF?

Suzie should have been more descrete, but if her mom didn't want the bcbc happening under her roof she should have put them in separete bedrooms.