Would you ever

MinM

live apart from your spouse for a significant period of time?

Backstory: I was telling Dr. HS about H's interview and he mentioned the possibility of me staying here and H moving on. I would have never thought of that. Andplusalso, I'd be hella pissed if H left me here after I moved to this pit for him.

arbolita

Mr. Arb and I had a conversation about this when I was interviewing for a job out of state.  We both agreed that because it was a great opportunity, I should take the job if it was offered, and he would stay in MD until he could find a job in the same state. 

TheDuckis

No. I have friends who did it for the first year of their marriage, and I just didn't get it.
Then again, H and I lived on opposite coasts for over half of our engagement. It worked for us because I was used to him travelling, but now that we're married I wouldn't do it again.

My old boss found out my H was moving before I told her I was quitting. I think she really tried to convince herself that I wouldn't be leaving and that H and I would just have a bi-coastal marriage. As if that sht job was worth staying for.

**O-Face**

I think it depends on too many factors.

awesome-sauce

No.

jojobrn

Nope, going through school was hard enough, most times I was physically here but mentally elsewhere. Wasn't fun for either of us most times.

baconsmom

If I had to stay to sell the house, sure. We were apart for two months in the process of moving to CO. 

But I have no career, so it's kind of moot for me. There's no reason for me to live apart from him - and to be honest, I can't really handle it. You can call that pathetic or whatever, but I didn't marry him to be apart from him. 

zsazsa-stl

DH moved here about a month before I did, but it was only 3.5 hours away, so not a huge deal.  I would have a hard time doing it for long term (more than 6 months)

But let's back up.  When did Dr. HS come back into the picture?  I thought his office closed suddenly.  Dr. HS has motives for sending your H away.

*Barbie*

we were LD for about 6 months when we were dating/first engaged. 

DH might stay in PA for a few weeks after I move to TX, but nothing long term. We need to see how things work out (if he has a job lined up/arrangements to ship dogs, etc.) he might stick around and work a few weeks. Luckily our mortgage in TX will be significantly less than it is here, so if he moves and is unemployed for a couple of months it will not be as painful as it would be here. (Especially because he can't collect unemployment...)

loveshine1

I don't think I could do it. One of the things I enjoy most about being married to DH is being able to take care of him. I would hate being apart.

And if I had to be a SAHW for a while, I'd be happy with that as well.

NOLABridesmaid

I think it's too hard on the relationship, IMO.

Butter Cookie

Yes, I could handle it. No, I wouldn't want to. But if FI got the opportunity of a lifetime with his company and say - ran off to another country for 2 months on work related business, I would of course stay here.

If it was going to be a year I would want ot move with him, but that's easier said than done when you've got a job, animals, and your name on a lease (and a whole bunch of bills)

But really, what do you consider a significant amount of time?

MinM

Ditto BaconsMama and loveshine. Except, H takes care of me

I told Dr. HS, I didn't marry H to be apart from him and I sure as HADES didn't move here for poops and grins.

HookaPants

Yes. Then again, I'm used to dropping everything at a moment's notice, leaving everything behind and being alone. Maybe I'm not the right person to ask.

MinM

Dr. HS didn't specify the time.

FWIW - yes, we have an animal, but no lease. The only reason for me to stay here would be for work.

E Squared

We just had this conversation yesterday. Ev's already apparently turned down offers to do sound on cruise ships and be someone's guitar tech for half a year away from home. He likes me too much, he says.

We agreed that a standard 8-week tour might be the limit for separation, and even then, he'd want to be sending a metric asston of money home to me in order to justify being away that long.