So my fiance and I have been engaged for about two years and are getting married this June back east. We currently live in California, so wedding planning from afar has been difficult, but we've had a lot of people helping us out with everything, especially my mom. Even though she doesn't share the same vision as us, she's agreed to almost everything and been super.
HOWEVER, I was roped into having my two younger cousins as bridesmaids. They are family, so how could I say no? Well their mom is hijacking my wedding. She thinks she is being helpful, but in reality she is being extremely rude at times and is causing so much extra stress. She told me no one would eat my cake if it had fondant because no one likes fondant and do you really want to throw all your cake away? Then she offered to throw my bridal shower (which I think actually bummed my Maid of Honor out a bit, but she lives far away too, so it was just easier). She got in a fight with me about serving fish at the shower basically calling me strange because I don't eat fish and told me she was serving it anyway. Then her husband started harrassing me about liquor the other day calling my selections choice words among other things. THEN she called and asked if it was ok for her older daughter to wear white to the rehearsal because she found a dress that fell in love with. My opinion is if you have to ask that kind of question, its not ok. Finally, my mom received their response card today saying that they weren't coming. Ok, I get that its a joke, but the invitations were expensive not including the postage. Plus we still need to know what your meal selection is. I'm at my wit's end if anyone has any suggestions on how to deal with family members like this? I love them, but with three months to go, I can't deal with irritations like this.