Since it's slow.

NOLABridesmaid

Time for another "As the World Turns" love update from the resident single chick.

So, chicken finger guy and I didn't have another date, and that was A-ok.

I went to a function with a friend of mine and met J. J is a nice guy. He's 42, stable, has two kids 21 and 23. Yes, it was a college thing. We've gone out a few times, and really seemed to have chemistry.

We went to dinner last night, and all was going well. Until, he asked a question that made me asked a followup question, and long story short. He doesn't want more kids. Not a one.

Because, he's had a vasectomy. Yes, S-N-I-P....S-N-I-P.

Talk about letdown. So, that kinda killed the rest of the night, and we both said we like each other but probably will just stay casual friends. You know, hang out when we want but nothing serious. Which is fine, a girl gotta eat, right?

It's just the timing thing. If I go 40's this usually happens. If I go mid 30's they are still in the game and not ready. Oh Well! What can you do?

Anyway, another episode of "As the World Turns" in Nola's life.

DG1

Hmm. Bummer.

I do have a colleague who's on his second family. Grown kids from his first marriage, and a 5- and 7-yo from his current one. 

So they aren't ALL like that. 

Have you been doing any Match.com or anything? Sometimes it's nice to just say, "look. I want X, Y, and Z. If you don't want that, it's cool, but we needn't waste our time, you know?"

MNNEBride

Ugh, sorry.

There are some out there that aren't done after 40 but they are fewer and farther between.  Maybe you need to look at 38-39.5 years?

NOLABridesmaid

Ha. MNN, I'll remember that.:)

I'm not having a pity party, I promise.
 
It just makes me get realistic that the kid thing might not happen for me. It really might not be in my plan. I wish I could have a heads up on the plan, but faith isn't just when things are going good. It's believing when things aren't, you know.

Anyway.....

mrsconn23

Bummer.   

However, I do like these updates.  Onward and upward, no?

NOLABridesmaid

Ha. Mrs. Conn, you sound like a friend of mine. She gets a kick out of my dating updates too.

pegasuskat

You may have addressed this before and I just missed it, but did you ever consider having a child on your own?  Either adoption or art. insemination?  You seem like you would make a  wonderful mother and maybe not the conventional way. Maybe the perfect man will come along in a few years and become a wonderful father to it, or maybe not, either way I think you would do a great job!

NOLABridesmaid

Peg, I'm open to adoption for sure.

I just noticed that I joined in 2003 next to my name. Man, it's been 9 years, and I'm still posting dating updates. Kinda sad.

As Mrs. C said, onward and upward or hit the bottle. One or the other.:)

6fsn

That is a bummer.  I agree with pkat that you will make a great mother.  You've probably been a bigger mom influence on some of those students already.

pegasuskat

Not trying to push you or anything, but get on it!! lol.  I have a friend that adopted 6 years ago, at 43.  She had her only other child while in HS, and she wanted a child with her 2nd husband.  They were talking about it and then her grown son got killed in an accident so they put if off a few years, but finally did.  Its been great for them, but definatly the older the harder it gets. I'm younger than her and a grandmother, I know they wear me out and I send them home, so the sooner the better!

NOLABridesmaid

Peg,  you do have a point. I can see the energy that's needed and sooner is always better for sure.

NOLABridesmaid

Ha. I just remembered I bought a speed dating voucher because my friend talked me into it. It expires in two days. I better get on that.

Hey, I'm sure I will have a good story to report. The things I do for my internet friends.:)

PMeg819

I know you'll find someone one day. I can't believe no one has snatched you up because you are awesome. In the meantime, I love the updates. There are some crazy a$$ weirdos out there.