Bridal Shower Showdown

thefreakinbride

So I got really lucky with my FMIL.  She is the sweetest person, and because of that I have mad sure to make her as much a part of the wedding planning as I possibly could.  Everything was fine until the other day she told me that she has everything all set for my bridal shower at my future brother-in-law's church. 

Two problems with that.  The first is his family is super religous and my family is not, and I don't want akward come to Jesus talk.  The second is my mother and my MOH have already planned this awesome coed bbq bridal shower that I love and they have put a lot of work into. 

My MOH suggested that I just have both showers and make it clear to people that might attend both that they (duh) do not have to by two gifts.  That sounded good until everyone else in both family's accused me of just being greedy. 

I really don't want to alienate my FH's family, but I don't want to piss my family off either, and I really want the bbq shower.

DG1

If people are being all uptight about "two shower" etiquette, why are they not also being uptight about the families throwing a shower in the first place - also technically a no-no.

If someone wants to throw you a shower, you have few options besides smiling and saying "thank you." 

I don't see how someone can offer to throw you a shower and then turn around and accuse you of being greedy.  If they are pissed, they can cancel the shower they are throwing.

Blargh. This whole post makes no sense.

I also enjoyed your screen name.

hmonkey

i didn't realize that you couldn't have more than one shower.  i thought it was up to the people throwing them.

mrsconn23

I'm so confused as to how this is a dilemma for you.  People want to throw you showers...Let them.  Go to both and enjoy. 

Does your family have absolutely *no* sense of decorum?  Would they be disrespectful in your MIL's church??

DG1

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_bridal-shower-showdown?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:3d028dc0-87a0-4745-907c-19e9b915fcf9Post:c7a4306a-0a4c-47c9-bf63-13a2667a1d0c">Re: Bridal Shower Showdown</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm so confused as to how this is a dilemma for you.  People want to throw you showers...Let them.  Go to both and enjoy.  Does your family have absolutely *no* sense of decorum?  Would they be disrespectful in your MIL's church??
Posted by mrs.conn23[/QUOTE]


Seems like she's worried more about the ILs using it as an opportunity to convert.
 Altar calls and all that.


But I'm still just confused all around.