Wedding Woes

She's NOT coming.

HELP! My best guy friend has recently started dating this girl again who, quite frankly, we all hoped we'd never have to deal with again. It's not just a matter of not liking her, that I could deal with. She's a TERRIBLE person. They most recently broke up because she PUNCHED HIM IN THE FACE.  I know that people say sometimes you just have to get over it and think "Well, I'll hardly have time to notice her on the big day!" - but that is simply not the case here. A few years ago, she had a major falling out with my SIL (and all the rest of our friends) in the months leading up to my brother & SIL's wedding. The invitations hadn't been sent out yet, and we were just getting started with planning the shower, so we figured "Well, we just won't invite her. Problem solved. No drama." Yeah. Right. The day of the shower, she showed up with a VERY loud and obnoxious entourage and demanded to be seated on the deck of the restaurant (right next to the area where the shower was occuring). She then proceeded to get very intoxicated and yell loudly about the bride-to-be and everyone else involved in the wedding....
I've already told my best friend after their last break up that I didn't care what their relationship status was at the time of the wedding, she's NOT coming.  The issue is this : She's already mentioned to several people that she plans on attending the wedding, even though he's told her he "doesn't have a plus one." Should she say something to me about this, what do I say? (AKA how the hell do I keep from punching her right in her stupid little face!) There is no doubt in my mind that if she showed up to the wedding, she'd come with an "I won't be ignored" attitude and *someone* would end up calling the police. UGH! What can I say to her to keep her AWAY!?!

Re: She's NOT coming.

  • I don't think you can say anything that will keep her away, but you can hire security and let them keep her away.  Sad that it has to come to that, but it beats having her there causing a scene.

    Why didn't the restaurant throw her out at that shower?  I would think having a drunken woman yell at their patrons might be bad for business.
  • They did eventually throw her out - but not before she made things VERY uncomfortable for everyone there. Thanks for the advice - it's looking like that's what it's going to come down to. My only other hope is that he'll break up with her again before the wedding (which is probably going to happen 7 or 8 times between now and then. UGH!) and then she won't want to be anywhere near any of us.
  • I have a similar problem.  A friend of my FI's is dating a girl no one in our group of friends likes, and that dislike grew when we all found out that she beats him.  I have not given him a "plus one" on his invite, and the best man (who is close friends with him) is going to explain that this girl is not invited.  This sounds psychotic, but seeing as this girl has already broken into a friends house (the best man's, actually) to beat her boyfriend and drag him out before he could put on his shoes, I'm planning on taking no chances.  I'm going to give her name and picture to the venue staff and let them know that under NO circumstances is this girl to be allowed in, and if she attempts entry, to just call the police.

    You have my sympathies and best wishes.  Good luck!
  • I'd say get a picture of her and show it to the venue staff and maybe some people in the wedding party. Make it known that if she enters your wedding venue, throw her a** out! Just don't make it YOUR responsibility to do so. You should be able to enjoy your wedding with as little drama as possible.
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