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Mother-in-law's dress




300 dollar prom dress.  Form fitting.  Lots of cleavage.  Lots of sequins, kinda flashy.  She's really excited about it.  It's better than my dress.  How do I deal with this without being a b*tch about it?

Re: Mother-in-law's dress

  • nikkiv77nikkiv77 member
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    edited December 2011
    fyi- I'm a size 14...She's a 6.  Im totally bummed.
  • emarston1emarston1 member
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    edited December 2011
    She's already bought the dress so this is something you should just let go.  It's not worth fighting over.  You're the bride - people will still pay attention and notice you even if someone else wears something flashy.
  • LnR70707LnR70707 member
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    edited December 2011
    She is going to look like a middle aged hooker.  No one will think she looks good in that.
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  • TheDuckisTheDuckis member
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    edited December 2011
    She's going to look ridiculous. Let everyone laugh. And believe me, no dress--no matter how spectacular--detracts from the bride's.
  • edited December 2011
    They laugh will be on her, not you esp if you have talked to her about it. Just let it go. She will be one people are whispering about behind her back at the reception. Was at a wedding last year where someone was dressed like that and people were whispering and talking about it all around.
  • nikkiv77nikkiv77 member
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    edited December 2011
    Yeah, I'm not gonna say anything, but I'm kinda bothered by it and just need advice on how to keep my mouth shut.  He's got those "I tagged your mom" friends and I'm just afraid that even his attention will be on her, too.
  • baconsmombaconsmom member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_mother-laws-dress?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:3d8aa79d-8d86-40cb-adde-8a461d15aa93Post:e702d2c5-5655-4b4b-b29f-3919de85a3a6">Re: Mother-in-law's dress</a>:
    [QUOTE]Yeah, I'm not gonna say anything, but I'm kinda bothered by it and just need advice on how to keep my mouth shut.  He's got those "I tagged your mom" friends and I'm just afraid that even his attention will be on her, too.
    Posted by nikkiv77[/QUOTE]

    <div>First of all, I highly recommend Fatshionista.com, Kateharding.net, and TheRotund.com. Trust me, you need them.</div><div>
    </div><div>Secondly, am I reading this right? <em>Your fiance's friends have fcked his mother?! </em>And you think he has some sort of unresolved Oedipal thing going on, so that he'll be more invested in how HIS MOTHER looks than in how you do?! </div><div>
    </div><div>That is a whole mess of crazy trash, and if that's the case? PLEASE RETHINK THIS WEDDING. </div>
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  • nikkiv77nikkiv77 member
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    edited December 2011
    LoL...Um, no they haven't done anything of the sort.  They all have an intensely crude  sense of humor.  Their way of teasing eachother, I guess?  I know all eyes will be on her, but I don't want to be bitter and cry about it the day of.
  • 6fsn6fsn member
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    edited December 2011
    I agree with everyone else.  His mom is going to look like a fool.  No adult and mother of someone getting married should be buying a prom dress.

    I'm hoping I'm not understanding the "tagged your friend comment."
  • nikkiv77nikkiv77 member
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    edited December 2011
    She's actually really, very nice.  I don't think she means any harm or is intentionally trying to upstage me...She's already bought it, and she seems genuinely excited to wear it.  I won't tell her to take it back, but how am I supposed to not feel a little resentment you know?  That's the point of this thread.
  • edited December 2011
    Now that everyone here has lied to you.  MIL is not going to look ridiculous, she is thin and will look very nice in that dress.

    You as the bride will look very nice in your dress.

    Seems like you look at fmil and all you see is skinny, you need to accept yourself and move on. FH loves you no matter what size you are.
  • 6fsn6fsn member
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    edited December 2011

    I think what everyone is saying is she's going to look like a fool so there shouldn't be any resentment.  Nobody said she was mean, just inappropriate.  Trust us that on your wedding day how she looks won't matter to you.  The only thing people will think about her appearance is that she looks foolish.

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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_mother-laws-dress?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:47Discussion:3d8aa79d-8d86-40cb-adde-8a461d15aa93Post:ba13cc10-ab6a-4795-8618-c2c6f97e66ac">Re: Mother-in-law's dress</a>:
    [QUOTE]Now that everyone here has lied to you.  MIL is not going to look ridiculous, she is thin and will look very nice in that dress. You as the bride will look very nice in your dress. Seems like you look at fmil and all you see is skinny, you need to accept yourself and move on. FH loves you no matter what size you are.
    Posted by RiRi157[/QUOTE]

    Skinny people look stupid too.  Low cut and sequined at your kid's wedding is stupid.
  • TheDuckisTheDuckis member
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    edited December 2011
    Even if she does look great in the dress--which I highly doubt because prom dresses are made for bodies that 50 year old women just don't have--we're saying that it's not going to hold a candle to how the bride looks in her gown. I've been to weddings where the mother of the bride/groom has looked amazing, and I've been to wedding where they've looked awful. A few comments will be made either way, but NO ONE is going to compare the mothers to the bride.
  • Butter CookieButter Cookie member
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    edited December 2011
    Oh, yea, you should be TOTALLY jealous that a middle aged woman has no idea she's middle aged and thinks a 17 year old'd prom dress is appropriate ever.

    Totally jealous.
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  • Blueyed228Blueyed228 member
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    edited December 2011
    Unless she is a D cup, that dress is hardly low cut and cleavage bearing.

    However, since she is an adult, she can wear what she wants.  If it looks ridiculous on her, she is the one who has to deal with it.  No one is going to spend the whole day staring at her.

    Last time I went to a wedding and someone was dressed inappropriately, I stared for a minute, made a mental not about how ridiculous they looked, and forgot all about it.  I wouldnt worry about it.

    Its your wedding day.  All eyes will be on you!
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  • LnR70707LnR70707 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_mother-laws-dress?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:47Discussion:3d8aa79d-8d86-40cb-adde-8a461d15aa93Post:ba13cc10-ab6a-4795-8618-c2c6f97e66ac">Re: Mother-in-law's dress</a>:
    [QUOTE]Now that everyone here has lied to you.  MIL is not going to look ridiculous, she is thin and will look very nice in that dress. You as the bride will look very nice in your dress. Seems like you look at fmil and all you see is skinny, you need to accept yourself and move on. FH loves you no matter what size you are.
    Posted by RiRi157[/QUOTE]

    We don't lie on this board.  I really do think she will look like a middle-aged hooker in that dress.  It is just stupid to wear something like that beyond 40.  Also, I think you are a douchebag for calling us all liars!
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  • felicia220felicia220 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_mother-laws-dress?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:3d8aa79d-8d86-40cb-adde-8a461d15aa93Post:ba13cc10-ab6a-4795-8618-c2c6f97e66ac">Re: Mother-in-law's dress</a>:
    [QUOTE]Now that everyone here has lied to you.  MIL is not going to look ridiculous, she is thin and will look very nice in that dress. You as the bride will look very nice in your dress. Seems like you look at fmil and all you see is skinny, you need to accept yourself and move on. FH loves you no matter what size you are.
    Posted by RiRi157[/QUOTE]

    <div>I kind of have to agree, although I wouldn't say everyone was lying, thats a bit aggressive.  If she has the body to pull it off, good for her.  OP needs to get over this and stop being jealous of her FMIL, that is weird on a whole bunch of different levels.   </div>
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