*sigh* Why are ILs so irritating

VarunaTT

My ILs were in town last week.  It was alright, there was one fight but it was equally my, MIL and DH's fault, so I don't put the blame solely on her.

However, we knew they were coming back through town this week (they had 2 weeks off and were doing the rounds of kids).  DH and I told them specifically we had plans for a costume party tonight, we wouldn't be available, we're bringing side dishes (which are already made).

DH gets a text about having dinner with them tonight at 7:30.  Oh and apparently they have my annoying little BIL with them.  Which just means I really don't want to go even more to dinner with them, b/c I fervently dislike him, I WANT TO GO TO MY COSTUME PARTY.  *stropping*

I have no idea what we're going to do yet.  DH is in class and just e-mailed me this info.  I'm pissy about it b/c I know what I should do and I know what I want to do.  So again, *stropping*.

6fsn

What you should do is go to the party.  Is there any way to just meet for a drink or app?

mrsconn23

Wait, you saw them last week?

Go to your costume party.

But I feel for you.  Similar isht goes down when DH's grandma comes to town.  That woman is a ball of fuckery.

tawillers

Agreed with pps.  You just saw them and you already had a committment to the party AND they knew this.

**O-Face**

WHAT!?!  Tell your DH to attend to the ILs and you'll meet up later.  If you've already commited to something AND you told your ILs that you had...that is rude.

DG1

Oh hell no. You just saw them and said you had a conflict for tonight. Leave a key under the mat and go to your party.

VarunaTT

6, I'm trying to figure that out.  The party starts at 6:30.  

Usually it wouldn't be too big of a deal to show up whenever, but we're bringing food (so need to be there at 6:30) and need to be in costume.  And while the clothes could probably pass on both of us (DH can just get down to his dress shirt and unroll his slacks), my crazy Helena Bonham Carter as Miss Lovitz hair and makeup would be...interesting in public to say the least.

I think I'm going to suggest an earlier time or breakfast tomorrow.  I know I've had enough of his parents, but they are his family and he doesn't see them very often anymore.  I'm waiting to hear back from him re: what he wants to do.

zsazsa-stl

Maybe they forgot? 

6fsn

Brunch tomorrow sounds like a perfect compromise.   Then have a hangover tomorrow so you can't go.

DG1

FWIW, I'll say seeing people in halloween garb doesn't throw me as much during October. It might be awkward for a whole dinner, but drinks on your way to a party would only be mildly weird.

Besides, why wouldn't you show off that awesome costume to the entire universe?

tawillers

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[QUOTE]Brunch tomorrow sounds like a perfect compromise.   Then have a hangover tomorrow so you can't go.
Posted by 6fsn[/QUOTE]

FTW!!!

VarunaTT

Okay, we've got it worked out.  We're going to our party at 6:30 and then just dropping in at teh restaurant around 8 for a drink and then going back to our party.  Inconvenient, but it makes everyone happy and I'm willing to compromise around other's compromise.  It's our favorite local hangout, so we've already been in there in full costume anyway, b/c our friends wanted to see it.

Oh and it's not stupid little BIL, so that makes me much more willing to compromise.  I knwo that's mean.

VarunaTT

Well, I think the post was eaten up, so hope this isn't a double.

We reached a compromise.  We'll be at party at 6:30, meet them for drinks at 8ish and then back to the party.

It's inconvenient, but it's a good compromise.  And the restaurant we'll be at, we've already been at in costume before, it's our favorite local hangout and they wanted to see the costumes.

VarunaTT

And NOW my other post shows up.

*kicks the Knut*