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Now what?!?! Help Knoties!

Ok I will make this short sweet and simple-

My FMIL was a bit testy with the whole wedding thing to begin with. Crazy here and there said not nice things we had a tiff. We're all adults have your argument and get over it. We did.

They offered to pay for the rehearsal dinner, very nice of them and much appreciated. Spoke with her yesterday. She would like to have it at the same place that we are getting married just different menu and different room. I didn't think anything of it and started looking at the menu and picking what we like.

I (dumb me) texted my mother today and said We're going to have it at the place we're getting married. I should have said we were looking at the menu and they suggested just doing there. Nothing is in stone by any means.

She called my father who called me and told me you absolutely cannot have the rehearsal at the same place they are trying to ruin your wedding and they will all complain that the food was this or that when it gets to the wedding. I was like .....

WHAT!

I explained that they are paying and nothing is set in stone.

Mother calls: SCREAMING BLOODY MURDER AT ME, how she will not go if its there, the wedding isn't in the state she wants the place she wants nothing is the way she wants it why does his bleep mother get anything she wants. LOW AND BEHOLD WW3 happens.

BTW I'm at work and on my cell while MOB is SCREAMING fit at me. I tell her I have to go continues to scream--- had to hang up. Calls immediately back SCREAMING---had to hang up and turned my phone off.

I'm shaking and tears are forming. I was just happy his family wanted to be apart of our day and they are paying I didn't see the problem.....

Dear Knoties should it not be at the same place or is something jumping head first into the deep end over there??

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Re: Now what?!?! Help Knoties!

  • hmonkeyhmonkey member
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    edited December 2011
    this is a new one.
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  • ReturnOfKuusReturnOfKuus member
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    edited December 2011
    Your mother is insane.
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  • mrsconn23mrsconn23 member
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    edited December 2011
    Ummm...Has your mother been evaluated for mental illness??  Undecided
  • TheDuckisTheDuckis member
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    edited December 2011
    What kuus said.

    Although from what you mentioned about your MIL's attitude toward the wedding I wonder if she's being intentionally thunder-jacky here. Not that this type of thunderjacking is anything less than completely ridiculous. Just maybe it's both your mom and your MIL who are insane.
  • MrsHey2BeMrsHey2Be member
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    edited December 2011
    See the worst part was I felt bad. She boasts about I worked at a bridal shop I know what you do and don't do. . . .

    I didn't see the issue.
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  • ReturnOfKuusReturnOfKuus member
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    edited December 2011
    Bridal shops are all about selling brides stuff, not about knowing what's really necessary and okay for weddings.
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  • hmonkeyhmonkey member
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    edited December 2011
    [QUOTE]Bridal shops are all about selling brides stuff, not about knowing what's really necessary and okay for weddings.
    Posted by ReturnOfKuus[/QUOTE]

    or about what it acceptable in polite society.
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  • MNNEBrideMNNEBride member
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    edited December 2011
    Your mother sounds imbalanced.  I think having both in the same location would be very convenient for your families and wedding party.
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  • pegasuskatpegasuskat member
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    edited December 2011
    I am a MOB, my DD's FIL's are having the rehearsal at the same place as the reception.  I think thinks this is fine, and since we booked it for the whole weekend they are helping me pay for it, and its convient for everyone. WIn, Win.  We are having different menus, and table deco. so I see no problem at all.
  • DG1DG1 member
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    edited December 2011

    If it doesn't bother you, it shouldn't bother her. 

    That said, I dealt with a similar situation. But *I* was the one who didn't want it at the same venue, so I said something, and MIL happily moved it to a great place a few buildings over.  There was no screaming and no drama.

    But again, your mother sounds insane, and there's not a whole lot either of you can/should do about an event you're not hosting or paying for.

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