Many phone calls, emails, and texts later.
Academic probation began after Fall semester. She failed History completely and got a "low D" in blah blah blah class (which begat a bunch of excuses that I really just didn't even listed to). Grades plummeted after illness, however things were obviously out of control before that. I am aware that way too much time has been spent w/boyfriend (lives 5 hours away, but spends huge chunks of time at her apartment-style dorm as he works sporadically and lives with his parents) She met him last summer at Cedar Point and he is a nice kid, but, whoa.
My major points of pissiness with her were: (see above), lying to me for nearly a year and then expecting me to "fix it" when the problem got out of control (this, incidentally is her dad's MO and the reason we are no longer married). I told her that I would work with her, but I wasn't doing it FOR her. If she moves home these are the rules and expectations, blah blah blah.
She kept freaking out and crying, I told her if she could not get control and talk like an adult, I was hanging up, crying wouldnt fix anything. Gave her a list of things to check out, including local CC, if she was interested in continuing, checking out minimum GPA for financial aid, etc. and she is expected to have a plan in the works before I go to pack her up on the 27th. Not just a short term "I'm working at Cedar Point for the summer" plan, either.
I am pist because apparently BF is going back to work at CP this summer, too. I do not know why this makes me so mad.
We discussed going back on the meds, she is receptive. She will need to figure out a way to keep it together to get her license and a car or take the old people bus to CC which is 15 miles away from my house.
Inside I feel ready to explode. I am losing my S**T. I am supposed to be planning my son's graduation from HS right now, and am now focused on her crap. I feel bad for my teenaged boys because they will now be back to sharing a bedroom FT when she moves back.
If you picture a little kid screaming and crying and throwing things and kicking things and stomping her feet and pulling at her hair - this is how I feel inside. I am trying to remain calm. I want to kill her father because he was going to go talk to her yesterday (he lives like 20 min. away) and just did not show up. He is absolutely of no value or assistance. She cannot live with him because he moves and changes jobs with the wind and currently lives w/his wife (she is not working) in her parents' home.