Is saving $1000 worth changing the date?

Tchavon1984

ok let me try to break this down in as few words as possible lol... we are planning to get marrired 12/13/14 we found a beautiful venue that fits all of our needs that will allow us to bring in our own food and what not... on the date we want the venue is about 2200 plus tax for 12 hrs but if we were to change our date to their off season its only 1100 to rent for 12 hrs... So I came up with the perfect date if we decided to change... My bday is Aug 8th his is Aug 10th so I thought having the wedding on the 9th would be perfect... the only prob with that is we lose a little over 4 months of prep time and saving... he wants to keep the date the same and use the extra time to work harder to make sure we have our perfect day... me I'm kinda on the fence I keep asking myself is losing four months worth saving 1000 bucks.... what do you ladies think?

Knottie_22382102

Isn't August a bit hot in S. FL? I don't do well in extreme heat and humidity so December sounds like a much better time to get married there to me.

I could save a ton of money if I got married in the winter here in NH, but it would suck for my guests to have to deal with snow...so I haven't even considered it.

Knottie_22382102

Also, why wouldn't you want your birthdays to be separate events from your anniversary?

Tchavon1984

yes its extrememly hot thats why I didnt want it in the summer at all only considered it because of the 1000 dollar diff.. I hate the extreme heat as well so thats another thing that had me on the fence they have this beautiful outside seating area looking out at the ocean but who would want to be out there in the heat... as far as the anniversary/birthday its all just a bigger party to me and you save money on gifts for each other lol

Knottie_22382102

It's not worth it in my book.

The reason it is so much cheaper is because people don't want to book that date and they don't want to book it for a good reason.

When I was looking to have the wedding at my uncle's lake house, it would've saved me about $2k if I ditched the tent, but I was concerned about the comfort of my guests so budgeted the $2k. It's the only thing I can try to compare this to from my experience that would be a sacrifice for guest comfort.

Also, the 12/14 date is like what 20-21 months away? Divide 1000 by that number. It's going to cost you like $40 something dollars a month extra between now and then to save up a $1000. That's not too hard, right?

DG1

How does this look as part of your whole budget? Are you saving $1,000 off of a $10,000 wedding? Or a $100,000 wedding? 

As for the planning time, you're still going to have 16 months. To plan an off-season wedding, so you'll have vendors galore available for you to choose from. (possibly also offering lower rates because of the timing.) I don't think that'll be a problem. (I planned my wedding in about 4 months and got my first-choice vendor for all but one thing. And bonus? I didn't have to stress about a wedding for a year and a half or two years.)

I also think the combined birthday/anniversary thing is nice, actually. Later, once you have kids and all of the stuff that goes with it, being able to simplify and just do one thing for both will be a gift in itself. Especially if your kids' birthdays fall close together or close to your birthdays or anniversary. (Every fall, we do Birthday, Birthday, anniversary, Birthday, Birthday, Christmas. It's insane. If I could merge 2 of those birthdays with the anniversary, I'd basically have 4 things to do instead of 6, which would rock. AND it'd be easier to justify the occasional big gift or trip, becaue hello?! It's for 2 birthdays and an anniversary!)

Which isn't to say you should change your date, but the heat seems to be the only reason not to. And isn't everyone going to be inside most of the time anyway? 

Tchavon1984

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_is-saving-1000-worth-changing-the-date?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:47Discussion:49f323ab-753b-4851-ade5-a086b33c32c4Post:0dbbf07c-df1f-4c84-8809-de1e0d1b0f01">Re: Is saving $1000 worth changing the date?</a>:
[QUOTE]It's not worth it in my book. The reason it is so much cheaper is because people don't want to book that date and they don't want to book it for a good reason. When I was looking to have the wedding at my uncle's lake house, it would've saved me about $2k if I ditched the tent, but I was concerned about the comfort of my guests so budgeted the $2k. It's the only thing I can try to compare this to from my experience that would be a sacrifice for guest comfort. Also, the 12/14 date is like what 20-21 months away? Divide 1000 by that number. It's going to cost you like $40 something dollars a month extra between now and then to save up a $1000. That's not too hard, right?
Posted by MuppetFan[/QUOTE]
no i'm pretty sure it wont be hard its just the fact that I'm keeping on top of our budget and saving and the things we need are already adding up and then you throw that big number its like whoa things just went from 4 to 6,000 like quick so it was a little bit of a shock that had me freaking out and stressing for a bit but either way I know we will be fine 

Tchavon1984

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_is-saving-1000-worth-changing-the-date?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:47Discussion:49f323ab-753b-4851-ade5-a086b33c32c4Post:3f4870f9-75ed-4798-a279-aa638e46afb5">Re: Is saving $1000 worth changing the date?</a>:
[QUOTE]How does this look as part of your whole budget? Are you saving $1,000 off of a $10,000 wedding? Or a $100,000 wedding?  As for the planning time, you're still going to have 16 months. To plan an off-season wedding, so you'll have vendors galore available for you to choose from. (possibly also offering lower rates because of the timing.) I don't think that'll be a problem. (I planned my wedding in about 4 months and got my first-choice vendor for all but one thing. And bonus? I didn't have to stress about a wedding for a year and a half or two years.) I also think the combined birthday/anniversary thing is nice, actually. Later, once you have kids and all of the stuff that goes with it, being able to simplify and just do one thing for both will be a gift in itself. Especially if your kids' birthdays fall close together or close to your birthdays or anniversary. (Every fall, we do Birthday, Birthday, anniversary, Birthday, Birthday, Christmas. It's insane. If I could merge 2 of those birthdays with the anniversary, I'd basically have 4 things to do instead of 6, which would rock. AND it'd be easier to justify the occasional big gift or trip, becaue hello?! It's for 2 birthdays and an anniversary!) Which isn't to say you should change your date, but the heat seems to be the only reason not to. And isn't everyone going to be inside most of the time anyway? 
Posted by DG1[/QUOTE]

Thats what I was thinking when I came up with the bday wedding bday thing spending money on one gift is better then 2 lol but like I said before I think I kinda got overwhelmed by the numbers things are adding up quick but I also have to take a step back and remember on where I'm cutting corners with this wedding I dont have to bring in any vendors bcuz we have friends and family that do most of the things we need for the wedding.... DJ, the food, the cake, wedding planner, photographer and the list goes on we have so I think I freaked out for nothing we'll be fine... but if we were to change to Aug yes after the ceremony the space will be changed for the reception so everyone will be outside for at least an hr on the terrace having drinks which could get pretty hot... there are other reason Aug wouldnt be ideal but at the same time using that extra 1000 on other parts of the wedding would be nice lol I'm all over the place either way I'd be happy I'm marrying the love of my life thats the most important thing

Tchavon1984

it's a  DIY wedding becuase I'm a very hands on and creative person why pay for something when I have more then enough time to do it myself and it's alot cheaper... I used to plan small parties for a while and did mostly everything myself it comes out as if I've spent thousands of dollars when I barely spent 500... not all DIY weddings come out looking how should I say this "homemade" lol... its not the first Venue I've looked at Ive seen tons but this is the only one that fits majority of my needs and wants... All of my friends and family I'm bringing in do these things for a living so why pay a vender when I can pay friends and its a lot cheaper.... if they are willing to knock off a few hundred that would be great but being that I would be renting it from the city it prob wouldnt happen.... I was just hoping I'd come out on the cheap end with everything but I guess we'll be adding the venue to the splurge list... we shall see

Knottie_22382102

never ever hurts to ask the question. The city might see it as income they might not possibly have too!

Tchavon1984

yeah I'm going back so my fiance can see it in person and I'm going to ask would they be willing to work with us if not I'm just going to suck it up