Stressed & Sad

pbgwedding

I am so stressed out right now. It's 6 months until the wedding, and my fiance is still looking for a job. He was doing construction, but jobs just kind of stopped because of the economy. We still don't have a house or any prospects. We've decided that if he doesn't have a job by the end of January that we're going to postpone the wedding. That just breaks my heart to pieces. We thought that we'd have everything together by now, and it just looks like we won't. I just hope everything starts to pull together. I really don't want to have to wait to marry him.

krizzo17

Would you consider downsizing your wedding? You don't have to wait to marry him, and clearly your heart is in the right place if you're sad about not being his wife rather than not having a huge party.

Sometimes life doesn't work out right on schedule, but you have each other, and that's a fabulous start

2012FutureMrsB

Unfortunately, there will never be a "perfect" time to get married. If you wait until everything is in order, it will never happen. Decide what's most important to the two of you. Is it marrying each other or is it having the wedding of your dreams? If it's getting married, which I'm assuming is the case, then do a small wedding you can still afford (even if it's just cake and punch with a few people, that's ok!). Choose the people that matter the most to you, with whom you want to celebrate your marriage, and then go for it. You can do a lot of DIY to save $, but still have an elegant wedding. Also, ask around for friends who have some experience in various things, like making bouquets or wedding cakes or running a sound system or photography. You might not be able to afford professionals, but you can still have a wonderful wedding ceremony and reception with those who care about you.

pbgwedding

Everything we're doing is DIY, and my FI's aunt owns a catering company so we only have to pay for food. The only people on the guest list is family, but I mean he does have a big family. There's really nothing to downsize because it's not elaborate by any means. It's just a hard time in our lives right now.

DG1

Definitely a bummer, but props to you for refusing to go into debt for a wedding.  If you need to get married for health insurance or something like that, go to the JOP (nothing will drain the bank account faster than medical bills, should any arise).  You can have a vow renewal when the financial situation is better.

chelleski578

if you are set on marring this guy i'm sure both family members will understand if you guys went to JOP until your finaces becomes more secure then maybe have something for family later. but it that is not an option then push the wedding back and save as much as you can from now until then.