Bit 'o family gossip

PMeg819

SIL and I use the same daycare lady. SIL only uses her a few days a week and drops her kid off earlier than I do so I generally don't run into her. So daycare lady (who is very nice) will sometimes talk to SIL then mention things to me that SIL has said. We have been on a temporary basis with daycare lady, and I asked her today if we had a permanent spot. Daycare lady says "Oh yes...I was just talk to SIL about this. I know she's trying for another one and wanted to make sure she'd have a spot for another one but that won't really be until next summer."

I heard two things: "yes" and "trying for another one". SIL and BIL aren't bad parents. They just make sh!tty decisions. Their kid is 10 months now. So that's 2 under 2, which sounds wretched to me but it's not my decision/choice. They don't have a huge house (3 bedrooms) but SIL has so much stuff. Not hoarder-style but her kid has like every toy a 10 month old could possibly have, so there is baby sh!t everywhere. SIL also constantly says she wants to be a stay at home mom. Fine, but they routinely make bad financial decisions that prevent her from doing that. Plus, BIL works construction. In AZ, where the housing market is ridiculously sh!tty so he doesn't always have stable work.

I am pretty sure she is doing this because she's seen Mr. Chubby and is in love with the idea of having a baby. I mean, Mr Chubby is pretty dang cute (and if you don't think that, EABOD) but I'm done. I like sleeping. And not having nipples that look like a rotten piece of beef that's been chewed on. And I'm still sad about my stomach. Having another baby because it's cute is not a good reason.

I called DH and he thinks they are idiots.

Also, I'm getting an IUD. Can't freaking wait.

MrsMyrtle

"And not having nipples that look like a rotten piece of beef that's been chewed on."
This is enough motivation for me to never have kids.

PMeg819

It's a reason to not breastfeed. I'm sure I sound vain, but I wasn't great looking naked before and being a moo cow for milk hasn't helped my tits.

*Barbie*

Mirena IUD or ParaGuard? I highly recommend the Mirena - it was aweseome, and  6 weeks after Wolverine pops out I will be getting another one put in - even if it means paying out of pocket. 

I went for 2.5 years without having a period = major win. 

also, SMDH @ your SIL.  Mr. Chubby is cute, but she sounds pretty dumb. 

PMeg819

Barbie, I'm leaning towards Mirena. I like how the hormones make my skin nice.

loveshine1

Yay for the IUD. I want to get one once I shut down the factory.

And Mr. Chubbers is very cute. Although I want to see some new pictures, please.

MrsMyrtle

As soon as I'm employed, I plan on getting an IUD (and a new pair of glasses).

~~Busy.~~

I had two under two and the first year sucked but now it's AWESOME.  They are friends, get along and are already close.  Poor Tank was so worried when PN was sick this week.  They told me at daycare he wanted to go home "super fast" because his sister was sick.

Also, my love my post breastfeeding nipples.  They are back to thier baseline color and my breasts are still in great shape.  I believe it's due to sleeping with a bra.  My boobs have been protected from gravity.

TheDuckis

I was going to say that not everyone can afford 6 bedrooms and a 3 bedroom home is perfectly respectable for a family with 2 kids, but then I remembered what you paid for your 6 bedrooms and I kindof agree with you on the financial side.

I also don't think 2 under 2 would be significantly harder than 2 under 5 or 10 or 16, but I grew up surrounded by families who had 5 under 8 and the like.

TheDuckis

Honestly, you guys know how I am about closets and bathrooms, but I see no need for more than 3 bedrooms.  If the kids are the same sex they can share a room and you still have a spare for guests.

hmonkey

if you live like emilykate, yes a 2br is too tiny.  otherwise, i don't see the big deal.

i do think it's weird to try to secure a space that early.  i know bil and sil are staring down a two year wait on a daycare space but they're not putting any money down or trying to get a fake baby or anything.

nicoleg1982

Pmeg, I can't rave enough about the IUD.  It took about 6 weeks to straighten itself out, but now I have no issues.  And no period!  Looooooooove it.

And your nipples will be pink again.  It's worth it, but I'm so looking forward to weaning DD over the next 4-8 weeks.  Right now, I'm only BFing 2x/day, so the end is near!

Heffalump

1.  If you need a home office, then you kind of need more than 3 BR, unless the house already has an office/study elsewhere.

2.  I have been toying with the idea of getting an IUD.  Now that I'm not BFing, I'm not stuck with the mini-pill, and I've heard a lot of good things about IUDs.  I'm about to start my last mini-pill refill, so I guess I should decide.

3.  I wish I had gotten DD on the list at our 1st choice daycare before she was conceived.  Maybe she would have an actual spot by now.

4.  Now that I'm done BFing, these things are saggy.  Sadly, I think my balloon boy prediction was spot-on. 

zsazsa-stl

There were five children in my family and the house originally only had two bedrooms. But then my mom's tiny sewing room became a bedroom.  And then my dad's office became a fourth bedroom, and my sister moved to the basement for a while, and then they finally remodeled and added another bedroom.  You learn to share and that isn't such a bad thing.

TheDuckis

At my elementary school, the kindergarten classes were generally filled 6-7 years early, which means people were registering the twinkles in their eyes. My dad was on some kind of planning committee and I remember seeing class lists full of TBD Lastname.

I think it's weird that the day care person was discussing SIL's personal business, and I'd be wondering what she was telling SIL about me.

GBCK

I'm always shocked at the number of peeps who feel the need to still have a guest room....
really?
I mean, yeah, I'm spoiled in that 90% of my family lives within 'driving distance' (that would be, like 6 hours) but...they can sleep in the living room on a blow-up mattress or on the pull-out in the basement...I'm not dedicating part of my house to people who don't live there.

That being said, the house I live in now?  just over 1000 feet?
It housed 5 people reasonably.

GBCK

I've known a few peeps who hated IUDs...they seem to be the exception though.

(says me, who has plans to go back on depo--which EVERYONE hates except for me and 3 other women in the world.)

6fsn

Um, why is this woman telling you all of this about your SIL?  THAT is the worst part of this.  What do you think she's passing on about you?

Eh to the rest of it.  I wanted 2 under 2.  We had 4 kids in a 3 bedroom house.  Maybe seeing the house would make it seem worse, but I can't say you need more.  My nipples look just fine now, it does change.

I believe Mr. Chubbers is adorable, even if we haven't seen him in awhile.  It could also be that if she has 2 she can say that daycare is more expensive than her working.

PMeg819

I only mention the three bedrooms because they are constantly saying how tiny their house is. They want to move but are unwilling to explore their options. In the meantime, their kid accumulates more and more damn stuff. She called me last night because one of his toys was missing and was it possible that it was left at our house. It wasn't at our house but she swears it's his favorite. Guess what...he doesn't know it's even gone. How they'll fit in another kid is beyond me because they have a decent amount of space and can't control the crap of one.

DG1

Hmm. I have 2 under 2 in a 3BR house. 

and, fwiw, I think it's awesome.  Even though we didn't plan it this way, there are some pretty incredible benefits to having them close together.  Yeah, I'm tired (ok, basically dead on my feet), but I also won't have a 5 year stretch where I have at least one kid in diapers. Or have a 3 year break from diapers only to have to start all over again. 

I also didn't have to worry about how my first child was going to feel dethroned after being king of the house for 5 years (like SIL had to deal with Niece when Nephew was born).