So FH and I have been engaged for almost a month and have decided that August 10, 2012 is when we'd ideally like to get married. I start grad school 2 weeks later and that way we can have a honeymoon and enjoy being married before life really gets crazy. Well my mom has decided that the most cost effective place to have our wedding is at their house. It's beautiful and it would work, but my mom and stepdad had their reception their last summer and FH doesn't want to have a copy cat reception, which I totally understand.
Their house is kind of in the middle of nowhere so the nearest hotel is 15-20 minutes away, most of his family lives 45 minutes away, we live an hour and half along with most of our friends. We have friends and family who will be flying in from all over the country and my biggest concern is the distance to the hotel.
Now to the driving me nuts part... they have offered to pay for food and rental of table and chairs as long as we have it there and that makes sense, but she is so against the idea of us getting married anywhere near where we live because many of their siblings wouldn't be able to make it, especially if we had it on a Friday night. She doesn't seem to understand any of the things I'm saying, they go in one ear and out the other. Originally I loved the idea of having it at their place, but now I'm not so sure.I think she would actually drive me insane.
I guess I just don't know how to remind her and make her understand that 1) it's our wedding and 2) planning a wedding 5 minutes from our house is likely to be easier than planning a wedding 95 minutes from our house.
Sorry this is kind of long but I really just needed to vent.