Question about invites, save the dates and trimming guest list

smr03fsu

ok, so I sent my Save the Dates wayyyyyyy in advance... I have been planning my wedding for 1 yr 1/2 now and i sent them out in the very beginning. Now there are people who I sent my save the dates to that i don't know I can afford to invite. What should I do? Is it ok to not send an invitation to someone you've sent a save the date to?

seescott

I don't think so.  That's the reason why (in retrospect) maybe you should have waited a little longer to send those save-the-dates.

I think the best thing to do now is (1) start thinking about how to make the wedding a little cheaper per-person so you can afford to invite your original guest list, and (2) don't panic until you get back your RSVPs -- maybe not everyone you invited will be able to come, and the problem will (at least partially) take care of itself.

becunning2

If you sent out a STD card to someone, that person did what you suggested and saved the date for YOUR wedding.  You've already told them that they're going to get an invite.  It's rude to not invite them now because you didn't plan appropriately.

Butter Cookie

Absolutely not. You need to either downgrade your wedding or put it off until you can afford the wedding you want.

sister2groom

Sending them an STD is inviting them. You can't have it both ways: sending them an STD is like asking a friend not to make plans because you want to go out, not sending the invite after that is like calling that friend later and telling her you actually don't want to hang out even though you wanted her to leave her schedule open.