Dear Amy: I am wondering about proper gift-giving etiquette when it comes to a combined engagement party/wedding reception that is being held nearly a year before the actual wedding.
This is in celebration of one of my husband's co-workers and her fiance. The couple has a rocky "on again, off again" relationship. They are notoriously irresponsible with their finances.
The wedding will be a destination wedding a year away. But on the invitation we received, they are requesting their wedding gifts now!
They are registered to a bank account. Does this sound fishy?
There was no indication on the invitation that the bank account was linked to a separate wedding fund or anything.
I say, give nothing until the deal has been sealed, especially given their relationship history and the fact that the party is a backyard barbecue.
My husband says, give half the amount of the wedding gift now and the other half next year after they are officially married.
What is your opinion?
— Wondering