I need advice on how to stop dwelling over annoying guest habits.
Our wedding is next week. Our date to have the RSVPs back was 3 weeks ago. Our due date to have the numbers into our caterer, 2 weeks ago.
We've had a handful of people who backed out or added guests at the last minute, but called or emailed to do so, that's a little annoying but fine. I could get over it. But this morning, two friends of mine, one who is in the wedding and one who is doing my hair, emailed me to ask if they could stay with any of my friends and family or if I could think of anywhere they could stay so they didn't have to get a hotel room. Two months ago, one month ago, even last week, I would have said, "sure let me brainstorm on this". But now it is a week before the wedding. I have a ton on my plate and if they could not scrape together the funds for a hotel, they should have made plans earlier, as they have known about the wedding date for six months.
They also referred to their group as "the three of us" when they had each RSVPd for dates (so it was originally a foursome). When I texted one of them to ask if their date was still coming, I got "yeah. meant to email u.:("
I'm trying to remain calm about this as I know there is nothing I can do. We just have to eat the price on the plate we paid for and they'll have to figure out where to stay because they're adults. But I'm pissed off and I'm starting to think petty thoughts like : I know they're not going to bring gifts either, etc. etc. I dont' even really want the one friend to do my hair anymore as the only reason I wanted her to do it is so I could be surrounded by another close friend at the wedding and I'm so annoyed by her I'd rather just have a professional do it. I don't like feeling this way. I want to tell them that they've upset me but if I have a disagreement with them so close to the wedding it's going to make things awkward. And if I keep feeling this way without getting over it, it's going to be awkward too. I thought this crap would happen with family not friends.
So how to I get over flaky friends so I can enjoy my wedding?