So if we go by "the rules"

ladybug608

Is everyone going to be okay with being censored for things like vulgarity? Here are the rules, by the way. IMO it's getting close to harassment since this is only getting worse and not better - WDYT.

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baconsmom

No profanity? That's half my vocabulary! 

*strops* 

aguysview

Funny, because if you follow this code, I can think of a banworthy incident right now. GBCK made a very vulgar statement in my child care thread. Varuna felt the need to stalk my posts, to win an argument, that she lost anyway. KUUS, MINM and Aunt flo use profanity all the time. And basically any lurker that jumps in to a conversation after lurking for a long time should be considered a stalker and should be banned. Your rules are going to work against all of you.

ladybug608

Plus, it's a little sad that all of this newbie's posts have degenerated into foot stomping and tantrums about not being kicked off the playground.

aguysview

Also I love how the modetator of this board is asking people if they are ok with following the rules.

aguysview

The same can be said about the regs! All you regs do is gang up on new poaters and when they dont do what ya'll want and run away with their tail between their legs, you regulars stomp and cry that they should be banned. IF YOU WANT A PRIVATE DISCUSSION WITH NO OTHER PEOPLE AND NO SEPERATE VIEW POINTS WHY DON'T YA'LL LEAVE. IF I WAS CREEPED OUT BY SOMEBODY I WOULDN'T WAIT FOR THEM TO LEAVE ME ALONE I WOULD LEAVE MYSELF!

VarunaTT

I don't have an issue with the cussing.

But the troll telling 6 that she's using her BC wrong, that goes on her husband's penis and not her mouth?  C'mon, that's clearly just wrong to me.  Personal attack and trying to use sexual terminology to shame someone.

6fsn

Yeah, that was vulgar and not in any way a joke.

ladybug608

Per the knot, "attacking members using sexual terminology" which is offensive is banworthy. So yes. Profanity is often used around these parts, they know this. But it's been made clear that certain comebacks are a violation of the rules. Sort of the way sexual harassment is looked at according to corporate policies.

And, by the way, that isn't my own judgement call. That comes from the knot moderators directly.

ladybug608

Honestly, at this point as adults who NOW see the rules more clearly, we should expect everyone to play nicer with one another. Going forward, IMO, it's worse that this person has gone back into past posts just to rag on people who weren't even involved in a discussion, or who actually didn't attack first. (It screams of someone who came back with a chip on their shoulder and doesn't have the guts to admit who they really are. Or maybe it's just a creeper who wants to mess with everyone.)

In any case, I have to check with the knot moderators before making any decisions to ban. I'm not going to violate anyone's freedom of speech or anything, but if people are truly offended then I do have thr right to throw down the ban hammer.

And if I DO have to ban someone for hanging out on a message board just to attack people for no apparent reason other than "because you can", then that is what I will do. And you can email the message board gods to complain about it if you don't like it.

VarunaTT

Also, post stalking is if you go to a different board/website, the person follows you to that "somewhere else" and bothers you.

Let's try it.  Go somewhere else.  See if I follow.

aguysview

Why don't you go somewhere else and see if I follow?

aguysview

In Response to Re:So if we go by :[QUOTE]Yeah, that was vulgar and not in any way a joke. Posted by 6fsn[/QUOTE]

I do hope you realize that it was a joke.
If you thought I was sexual harassing you in anyway, I truly am sorry.

Miss high and mighty ladybug, what about when peekaboo threatened to have her brother from the military shoot me? How is that not ban worthy? Why is that assumed to just be a joke?

peekaboo2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_so-if-we-go-by-the-rules?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:5d0dd3be-185f-40dd-9da6-262d3a2a6a72Post:d43de26a-3007-489c-b632-4895fd47b45c">Re:So if we go by</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re:So if we go by : I do hope you realize that it was a joke. If you thought I was sexual harassing you in anyway, I truly am sorry. Miss high and mighty ladybug, what about when <strong>peekaboo threatened to have her brother from the military shoot me?</strong> How is that not ban worthy? Why is that assumed to just be a joke?
Posted by aguysview[/QUOTE]

<div>1.  I never EVER threatened anyone.  I simply stated that I would remind my brother where to point the big guns.  That wasn't directed at ANYONE in particular.</div><div>
</div><div>2. The train of thought was that if paper engineers don't exist, engineers don't exist, and therefore it was a moot point ANYWAYS because his job didn't exist.</div><div>
</div><div>3. My brother isn't in the military.  Which is completely irrelevant.</div>

VarunaTT

Very honestly, I was surprised you thought that was directed at you.  Since we had been talking about what I consider to be your misogynistic thoughts re: women, I assumed she meant it that she had to tell her brother where to point it b/c he couldn't know himself.  

And no.  This has been my regular posting board for some years now.  

aguysview

Sure, because you wouldn't be screaming to the TK gods that I threatened to inflict harm on you if I posted that very same thing. And if you weren't talking about me, where exactly would you be directing him to point his guns. It is obvious to see that you were talking about me, even if it was a joke.

peekaboo2011

Again, it wasn't directed at anyone.

And secondly, no, I wouldn't be screaming to the TK gods.  Mostly because that's not my style, but also because I really couldn't give two shiiits about what some moron says on the internet.  Unless you're advertising.  Because then I feel violated.

6fsn

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_so-if-we-go-by-the-rules?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:47Discussion:5d0dd3be-185f-40dd-9da6-262d3a2a6a72Post:d43de26a-3007-489c-b632-4895fd47b45c">Re:So if we go by</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re:So if we go by : I do hope you realize that it was a joke. If you thought I was sexual harassing you in anyway, I truly am sorry. Posted by aguysview[/QUOTE]

How would I have thought it was a joke?  You dropped on the board and attacked everyone.  You called me names, attacked my current and former professions, failed to apologize and admit you were wrong, and called my husband names.

If you spent any time on the board you'd see that the people here can have different opinions and still get along.  We just discuss and either agree on the topic or agree to disagree on it. 

6fsn

And to be fair, the person that brought up your ex is not a regular on this board.

VarunaTT

Oh no, I was the one who asked the troll about the previous post in the coffee shop.  I didn't know it was the ex at the time though.  I didn't see where they'd posted anyplace else, but somehow there seems to be knowledge about more to the story.  Or maybe I didn't read the whole post or something.

And you accused ME of stalking YOU.  So, to be a valid experiment, we need to see if I follow you.

themanlyman

These rules seem fair.