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s/o moms

I've been beating myself up since last night because I was a <little> snippy with my mom on the phone last night.

She has issues with my grandma, most of which seem to be in her own head, but I also wasn't there when she was growing up so I try to stay out of it. But sometimes she really treats my grandmother like she's a dimwitted five-year-old, and it pisses me off. 

If it were DH, thanks to marriage counseling I could sit down and have a nice, calm, rational conversation about it.  But since it's my mom, when she was snippy about my grandma (and mistaken, to boot), I was a little too happy to point out that she was actually mistaken.  She didn't say anything about it, but I've been beating myself up ever since.

DH said just to email and apologize so I can move on, but that would be admitting wrongdoing in the first place, which I don't want to do.  So I just keep mentally flogging myself, and promising to be a better daughter so that karma will reward me with a daughter who's nicer to me than I was to my mom.

Re: s/o moms

  • Eh. You were right, and it sounds like it was something your mom needed to hear.

    It took me a long time to learn this (I'm still working on it), but just because she's your mother doesn't mean you're not allowed to point out when she's wrong. It was rude when you were 8, but now it's being an adult.
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_moms-5?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:47Discussion:5e0ee520-b151-4b8c-bb4b-40840eaabb3fPost:3f41a9dc-b605-40f5-b490-61e6833aad13">Re: s/o moms</a>:
    [QUOTE]Eh. You were right, and it sounds like it was something your mom needed to hear. It took me a long time to learn this (I'm still working on it), but just because she's your mother doesn't mean you're not allowed to point out when she's wrong. It was rude when you were 8, but now it's being an adult.
    Posted by TheDuckis[/QUOTE]

    I know, you're right, but I wasn't mature about it.  I was more like the rude 8 y.o.  I should have said, "Actually, X might be the better option because of Y."  Instead, it was more like, "You're not seriously going to do that, right?"
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_moms-5?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:47Discussion:5e0ee520-b151-4b8c-bb4b-40840eaabb3fPost:0214e9e8-4859-4c7c-b4ed-e6d8b3db6a03">Re: s/o moms</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: s/o moms : I know, you're right, but I wasn't mature about it.  I was more like the rude 8 y.o.  I should have said, "Actually, X might be the better option because of Y."  Instead, it was more like, "<strong>You're not seriously going to do that, right?"
    </strong>Posted by Heffalump[/QUOTE]

    Sometimes people (moms, grandmas, aunts, BFFs) need to be asked that question in that tone to realize how crazy they sound.
    "I would be sad if sex was only about the climax, lame." Someone who is obviously doing it wrong
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  • Hooka's right. Every once in awhile, moms need to hear the 8 year old tone from someone they can't send to their room.
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