So I have been at my wits end for months with my fiance... when we first started dating he was the *perfect* boyfriend. He was caring, attentive and thoughtful. We lived together during college and he was helpful around the house, he did what I asked him to chore wise and he cooked--and liked to! He used to work out and took care of himself well.
Once we got engaged everything started going downhill. We moved in together. He packed on the pounds, he stopped doing anything special for me, he's messy and so on and so forth. He turned in to a different person. We have an everyday argument about him helping out around the house. I dont necessarily mind doing all the cooking and cleaning as long as he doesn't make it 10x more difficult for me than it has to be by leaving all his dirty clothes and dirty dishes everywhere. He only helps out if I get upset and even then he only half does the job so I have follow behind him and finish it. He's like a 5 year old. I know he has the potential to be my partner, even if not an equal one. I have tried everything to get him to grow up a little but I am at the end of my rope at this point...
Have any helpful ideas? I don't want to have to go to couseling before we're married!!