After my freak out the other day we talked and his concern is money.
He wants to start a college fund for our son and is worried that 20,000.00 plus for a wedding is a waste considering that we have already started our life together. So we are going to wait until Jan 2013 and then set a date after we see how the budget that we lined out last night will work. We will then have a better Idea on how much we can spend on a wedding without it affecting our other financial goals.