omg i hate you so much

hmonkey

Dear Amy: I am always curious about people's cultural and racial background.

My 24-year-old daughter is mixed-race (black and Korean). I went to Seoul when she was 2 years old to bring her home from the orphanage.

As a result of knowing her racial makeup, I've sorted out what various Asians look like and can distinguish differences between people from China, Japan, Korea, Mongolia, Vietnam and the Philippines.

I am outgoing, and when I hear an accent or see someone I think is a combo like my daughter, I usually ask. People are always curious about my daughter and I'm curious about other people too.

Am I being rude if I express curiosity about a person's racial background? Some people like the interest, but others seem to resent it. A man in the supermarket yesterday was obviously annoyed. He was from Sudan.

Should I just keep my mouth shut? It seems too politically correct to stay quiet. I think that other people should not be this sensitive.

— J

ReturnOfKuus

If you could see the look on my face...

Mrs.Thistletwat

Hmo, I honestly hope she one day asks you about Baby Mo. I want to see a news clip about what you do to this moronic crotch waffle.

[Deleted User]

This cracks me up.  People always come up to me and ask, "What are you?"

baconsmom

I lost my eyebrows. WTF. 

MrsPrice2005

Wow!  Just wow!

hmonkey

i was at the mall on wednesday.  a sales woman stopped me, looked at the baby and said, "is the daddy white?"  

no "can i help you find something?" or "how are you doing today?"; just "what kind of hapa is that baby?"

MrsPrice2005

My response would have been is my fist down your throat? 

fishgirl77

I'd be pretty annoyed if some random supermarket shopper started getting all up in my racial background.  I am not some random btch's multicultural lesson of the day.

loveshine1

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_omg-hate-much?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:657bb0dd-500d-40ff-a5d6-35c52c4d9e21Post:f3ab98ec-8c50-47dc-b137-3a6f92a25376">Re: omg i hate you so much</a>:
[QUOTE]i was at the mall on wednesday.  a sales woman stopped me, looked at the baby and said, "is the daddy white?"
Posted by hmonkey[/QUOTE]


You liar. She did not! There is no way someone who works in a store and deals with the public daily asked you that.

[Deleted User]

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_omg-hate-much?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:657bb0dd-500d-40ff-a5d6-35c52c4d9e21Post:f3ab98ec-8c50-47dc-b137-3a6f92a25376">Re: omg i hate you so much</a>:
[QUOTE]i was at the mall on wednesday.  a sales woman stopped me, looked at the baby and said, "is the daddy white?"   no "can i help you find something?" or "how are you doing today?"; just "what kind of hapa is that baby?"
Posted by hmonkey[/QUOTE]
You should have told her you don't know b/c you aren't sure who the daddy is.

**O-Face**

Gah.  What a fucktard.

Paulo's Menina Bela

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_omg-hate-much?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:657bb0dd-500d-40ff-a5d6-35c52c4d9e21Post:5ad61ef4-7a34-428b-b040-0350b287551a">Re: omg i hate you so much</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: omg i hate you so much : You liar. She did not! There is no way someone who works in a store and deals with the public daily asked you that.
Posted by loveshine1[/QUOTE]


I believe it. H and I have a dingbat, third tier friend who would do that. She asked similar stupid questions before.

loveshine1

Keep your ridiculous questions to yourself, idiot.

**O-Face**

I think the best part (most idiotic) is that if you show you're offended, THEY become offended that YOU'RE offended.


^a little word puzzle for you^

Heffalump

Y'all, it is totally fine because she's curious!  Curious = entitled to pry into complete strangers' lives.

MrsDPRea

::blink blink::

WTeverlovin'fvck!

I don't know the backstory on you (OG here), but that is so fvcked up for a stranger to ask about this shizz!

khagan9368

Meh, it doesn't bother me.  I don't think a day goes by that one person or another doesn't ask me if my daughter is bi-racial.  I think I've gotten very laid back in my old age.  Maybe staying away from this hostile board has chilled me out some too...