Family member not invited

ssandell

I have this aunt, if you can call her that, that thinks she's invited to my weddding. She's constantly asking when it is and where. But the thing is, she hasn't talked to me since my grandpa passed away 9 years ago. And I don't remember her talking to me before that. She never even sends Christmas cards. I can't afford to invite people who don't speak to me just because they're family. I want people there to celebrate with that love me. How do I handle this? 

hmonkey

"sorry, limited space."

and how is she asking you if you haven't spoken?  email, phone ... or (SIGH) text?

tawillers

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[QUOTE]<strong>I have this aunt, if you can call her that,</strong> that thinks she's invited to my weddding. She's constantly asking when it is and where. But the thing is, she hasn't talked to me since my grandpa passed away 9 years ago. And I don't remember her talking to me before that. She never even sends Christmas cards. I can't afford to invite people who don't speak to me just because they're family. I want people there to celebrate with that love me. How do I handle this? 
Posted by ssandell[/QUOTE]

Well CAN you call her that?  Is she the sister of either of your parents?  I NEED to know!!!!

Butter Cookie

I also wonder how you are communicating if you don't communicate.

ReturnOfKuus

Who is she asking when and where the wedding is?

katenadjohn

Just say "I'm sorry, we're keeping the wedding extremely small and intimate," and don't talk to her anymore about it.  If you don't communicate, how is she asking you?  Dear God, please don't tell me via Facebook or I'm deleting my account right here and now.  I'm sick of FB and people using it to ask me when/where my wedding is and if they're invited... at least they're doing it via messages and not right on my wall.

ssandell

I guess I should have worded this better. I was running out the door for a doctor's appointment.

My aunt is my mom's sister. She hasn't talk to me or my sisters since my Grandpa's funeral in 2002. And she didn't talk to us before then either. She is on my facebook and that is how she asks me, repeatedly, about my wedding. She does it on my wall for everyone to see. And that's all she ever posts. There is nothing but that. She just assumes she's invited. I don't have the money to invite people that never speak to me. And if I did, I don't think I should have to invite someone who only wants to be there to get something out of it. Also, I haven't told my mom that barely anyone from her side of the family is getting invited. None of them talk to me or want anything with me. They are all like that but my another one of my aunts. I doubt they know how old I am. My mom and I don't get along well, so I'm sure there will be an arugment about it too. 

ReturnOfKuus

Take her off of your friend list.

katenadjohn

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[QUOTE]Take her off of your friend list.
Posted by ReturnOfKuus[/QUOTE]

That's actually a really good idea.  Or block her ability to post to your wall.