wedding fatigued

Alohakeki1584

i have been planning my wedding to my fiance for 2 and a half years.  in that time, i was working full time, got my masters degree, moved to atlanta with my fiance for his job, mourned the loss of an aunt, struggled with a grandparent with cancer, and had a close family member go through a divorce.  in addition, my SIL was less than kind or civil for many years, we never had an engagement party,my entire family is moving cross country, and with one week to go until the wedding, i am completely burned out.  i do not feel excited, and neither is my fiance.  i feel like i worked so hard to make this a perfect day for both of us, but he does not seem to care.  the wedding is in ny, so he isn't even here yet for the festivities, let alone any of the planning.  i feel alone and sad, depressed and angry, not the blushing bride i was supposed to be this whole time.  is this normal??  i'm not having doubts about the marriage, but i feel more bogged down by everything else that we have let affect us instead of just letting everything just happen and fall into place.  help!

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[QUOTE]i have been planning my wedding to my fiance for 2 and a half years.  in that time, i was working full time, got my masters degree, moved to atlanta with my fiance for his job, mourned the loss of an aunt, struggled with a grandparent with cancer, and had a close family member go through a divorce.  in addition, my SIL was less than kind or civil for many years, we never had an engagement party,my entire family is moving cross country, and with one week to go until the wedding, i am completely burned out.  i do not feel excited, and neither is my fiance.  i feel like i worked so hard to make this a perfect day for both of us, but he does not seem to care.  the wedding is in ny, so he isn't even here yet for the festivities, let alone any of the planning.  i feel alone and sad, depressed and angry, not the blushing bride i was supposed to be this whole time.  is this normal??  i'm not having doubts about the marriage, but i feel more bogged down by everything else that we have let affect us instead of just letting everything just happen and fall into place.  help!
Posted by Alohakeki1584[/QUOTE]

Not everybody enjoys wedding planning, and perhaps a part of you feels like this is the end to a very long difficult couple of years. Instead of focusing on that, focus on the marriage. Focus on the love and friendship you share with your FI.