Speaking of dumb hookers on FB

ilovewhoseweddingisitanyway

Friend texted me last night to check out her H's FB page. A girl he works with (who friend thinks flirts with him, and acts inappropriately, when she knows he's married) has been very active on his page.

This co-worker calls friend's H "Banana." Friend is irked by this, and doesn't want to make a big deal of it b/c she said she's a jealous person anyway, but it pisses her off. She's shared this with him (and he gets a big ol' side-eye from me for this, though I love him to pieces), and apparently he's told this co-worker about it. In his defense, he is a huge jokester, and likely thought dropping it to co-worker in the way of "my woman doesn't like other ladies calling her man Banana," would take care of it.

So at 1:30am on Saturday night, the chick wrote "Oh, Banana, Banana, Banana," on his wall. And she's all up in his status updates and such. I told friend that she needs to tell H to lay it down for this chick, and not in a joking way, b/c she obviously now is just being disrespectful. But she says part of her feels bad, b/c she doesn't want to come off as crazy and possesive. WDWWT?

Butter Cookie

Well, assuming I needed to tell FI this (I wouldn't) I don't think it's remotely crazy or possessive to follow your gut instinct that this woman does not have pure intentions and is being totally disrespectful of the fact that he is married. He needs to put a stop to it, and not in a joking way.

**O-Face**

Um.  I think your friend should tell her H that it is imperative that he talk with work chick.  Work chick is stirring things with a shitstick.

TheDuckis

Here's the thing, if he thought mentioning it jokingly would stop it, and it worked, that's all well and good. But if he tried the joking method and it failed, then he's essentially done nothing. His wife shouldn't have to tell him again to make this woman stop. It's not about being possessive and crazy, it's about asking him to do something and expecting that it gets done.

ilovewhoseweddingisitanyway

I 100% agree, and that's what I've told her. I also told her no way in hell would this sht be going on if it was my situation.

baconsmom

Why doesn't he just ignore it? 

I dunno, I guess I don't see the problem. Coworker's crazy. Ignore her. 

DG1

Unless she's the type to get jealous over every little thing, I'd at least hope the husband would unfriend this lunatic.

lisarose7

She could ask him to delete this chick's posts.  One of my co-workers did that when one of her H's female friends posted something suggestive on his wall.  She responded with something like, "This isn't a very appropriate thing to say to another woman's husband."  He saw her reply, realized she was irritated by it, and removed the offending comment.