girl, leave it alone.
Dear Amy: My husband has a sister who was born while he was in junior high school. His parents allowed him to name the baby. He had a crush on a classmate at the time, and named his little sister after the classmate. However, he never told the classmate he had done so. They never became close and have not seen each other since high school.
His younger sister, "Caroline," is now a delightful woman with a good job, loving family and great sense of humor. She knows she was named for my husband's classmate but has never met her.
My husband's 50th high school reunion is this summer, and both my husband and the older "Caroline" are scheduled to attend. I think my husband should tell his classmate of her namesake, but he is adamant about not doing this and has made me promise, reluctantly, not to do so either.
I think anyone would be honored to have an unknown namesake, especially one as charming and accomplished as "Caroline." If you agree, can you help me persuade my husband to reveal this information? If you don't agree, can you tell me why?
— Caroline's Admirer