Children of divorced and remarried parents

AuntFlo

Would you want to attend a Mother's Day or Father's Day GTG where both sets of parents would be present?     Why or why not?

They are all polite to each other - if that makes a difference in your response.  

AuntFlo

And in case that wasn't clear, I guess I should have said:  As an ADULT child (with kids of your own) of divorced and remarried parents...

NOLABridesmaid

I think if I had kids this would make things easier. I might not want to do it every year, but it would be nice if both sets could do joint holidays.

baconsmom

I'll just butt in here - I have no parental issues, and I don't like celebrating MD with my mother. She has totally different ideas of fun and what's "appropriate". (She was all pearl-clutchy the MD I went to see Star Trek.) 

IMO, mothers should get to dictate how they spend Mothers' Day. So if you have a kid, guess what, you can call the shots. If that kid has a kid, they get to call their own shots. Every mother deserves to have a nice MD, not merely the oldest mothers. 

TL;DR: Do what you want. 

AuntFlo

SIL (and my bro, although I know it's not his idea) has been hosting a MD and FD open house for the last few years.   She was tired of trying to get everywhere to see everyone (her mom, her MIL (my mom) and SMIL)  because she is a huge martyr and wants to please everyone to the annoyance of us all.   But that's a whole different story.   
The guest list includes:  me, DH, DD, SIL, bro, nephew, SIL's married parents, my mom and step-dad, my dad and step-mom, my 2 aunts that live in town and their husbands, step-sis and step-bro (kids of step-dad) and their spouses and sons.
My dad and step-mom are definitely the odd men out in this equation.  I try hard to split my time equally between my parents while at the party, but it is VERY uncomfortable for me.  
So I decided that this year I am not going because I don't want to spend "My day" feeling this way.   Now SIL is all butt hurt, plans are being changed left and right, dad and step-mom have decided not to go, everything's coming to a head and I'm the one who got the ball rolling.    None of which I really care about, but now my mom is all bent out of shape with hurt feelings (I know, that's her choice) and she's the last person I'd want to hurt...

I just don't understand why SIL ever thought this was a good idea.   Who would?

Bleck.   I may just stay in bed all day Sunday.

*Barbie*

Mom, I have mothers day plans with Mr. Flo and baby Flo, but would love to take you to lunch on (date).

AuntFlo

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[QUOTE]Mom, I have mothers day plans with Mr. Flo and baby Flo, but would love to take you to lunch on (date).
Posted by *Barbie*[/QUOTE]

Oh, I know - and that's exactly what I'm doing with mom and my step-mom (SEPARATELY though, because I'm not a dimwit like SIL.)

And when I declined the invitation, I just said "no, we can't come.  Thank you for thinking of us."  I offered no explanation and did not apologize.   Of course, she asked me why I wasn't coming the next time she saw me