I have a friend who my family does NOT like at all, and she and I have kind of drifted apart since I moved to another state. We still chit chat every now and then, but I wouldn't really call us close anymore.
We were best friends in high school and we had an apartment together when we were younger (she's the reason I refused to ever have another roommate). Our relationship has been strained for quite some time and while most of my family could tolerate her, my mother absolutely loathes her. I don't know why, I've asked but never really been given an answer. My mother, who is paying for the wedding, told me that I'm not inviting her. Sad to say- I'm okay with it because I know that she's the kind of person who would try to upstage me at my own wedding. BUT she's expecting to be invited. I know that if I send her an invitation she'll come (eventhough she can't afford it, because it's 800 miles away and we aren't housing anyone at our place because we leave for the honeymoon almost immedately) and it'll cause a LOT of stress and a lot of drama if she's there. She would also bring her boyfriend who I can't stand to be around.
My question is: how do I tell her he's not invited to the wedding without completely destroying the little bit of friendship we have left? We're having a reception back home for the people who couldn't make it to the actual wedding, do I invite her to that and explain when she asks about it? She says she's really looking forward to my wedding- but this is something I cannot go against my mother on. How do I explain it to her?
This is so stressful, thanks for reading.