I need mom gift ideas, too.

MinM

She lost all of her hair this last round of chemo, and doesn't like leaving the house.

I would get her that frame, but without kids to put under me and H, it seems reallyfucking depressing.

So, ideas? I was thinking flowers for her room, since she spends most of her time there sleeping these days.

6fsn

Would she do hats or a scarf?  Maybe a new robe or slippers?  Lotion?

I'd probably do a planter with some fresh flowers before just flowers, but that's what I prefer to get.

GBCK

flowers are good.

Does she have/need headcoverings?  (I got my mom a few extras to help her not get her head sunburnt--they were things I thought she'd consider if she had hair--like this:

http://www.4women.com/fabrics/silk/)

would a mani/pedi make her feel good?

I seriously considered this book:

http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/1862046964//surprisecom

but, knowing my momma, thought she wouldn't like it.

*Barbie*

get a flowering bonsai - should live longer than cut flowers:

http://ww10.1800flowers.com/collection.do?dataset=10291&cm_mmc=paidsearch-_-googlegeneric-_-plants-_-flowering_bonsai&bannerBeacon=true&gclid=CN-e_YWW5qoCFUjCKgodqFGhyA&conversionTag=true

we have the mini pomegranate plants in our yard and the flowers are really pretty.

when we did the family tree for mom and MIL we put us and the dogs on. The one that we got (link in other post) didn't have branches for each kid's family.

MinM

She bought a new chaise for upright lounging in her room.

She is really inconsolable about her hair. Any discussions of hats or scarfs turn her into a child, talking about herself as 'the freak' and essentially putting her fingers in her ears saying, "I CAN'T HEAR YOU!!!!!"

Also, she doesn't read. Maybe some udder butter. She liked that and can't get it anywhere.

GBCK

oh, and pajamagram does 'get well' boxes.

I got one once and it was awesome--fuzzy robe, chicken soup, etc.

http://www.pajamagram.com/category/getwellgifts.aspx

MinM

The flowering bonsai is nice. Thanks for the idea.

MinM

It is something she would really like, I think. Bonus points for being able to order it today and forget about it, too.

AuntFlo

Love the bonsai idea.

I know when my mom lost all her hair due to chemo, we kept looking for the bright side - - which,as you know, was really hard to find.   But we decided that at least she had her teeth!   I'd say that to her whenever she'd get down about being "ugly" and the ridiculousness of it all would snap her back and she'd laugh.   We still say that to eachother when we get stuck on the small stuff.  "At least you have your teeth!"   It's so tough.   I'm sending virtual (((HUGS))) for both of you.

MinM

Sadly, she had lost a tooth and paid out the nose to get it replaced. Her dentist messed with the fake tooth and she is now back to missing a tooth. Cancer has taken all of her money, so she's still missing a tooth. I don't think she would react well to that! But, I see what you mean. And I appreciate the point you are trying to make.

My mom isn't at a place where she'll even entertain the notion of a bright side. I tried suggesting getting a red wig for when she feels sassy and she snarled at me, "How am I supposed to feel sassy with no hair?" So, yeah.

Right now she is kind of off my radar - not answering my calls, only answering parts of certain text messages - and I am OK with it.

AuntFlo

Aw man.   That's awful.   I'm so, so sorry Min.  

MinM

Af - it is what it is. Being sad about it isn't going to change her, or the situation. I just try to concentrate on myself. I give myself entirely to her when I am there, so I am OK concentrating on me when I am here. Not much I can do anyways.