You don't say.

baconsmom

"Spanking causes fear of parents", says the Today show.

No sht. That's the point, morons. 

They're also calling the segment "Most effective ways to discipline your child". Which is amazing: I didn't know they knew my child! 

mrsconn23

Gah...I hate watching any segment on a talk show (Because let's face it, that's what Today is after the 7am hour) about discipline.  It's always the same generic BS and it always ends with, "You know your child best, so you should know the right thing to do."

Andplusalso, when did we become afraid of fear?  Fear is not a bad thing.  Kids should fear consequences.  That's why the hellions that run around today are the way they are, they have no fear of conesquences in their life.

loveshine1

I see nothing wrong with kids having a healthy fear of their parents.

And a good swat on the ass never hurt anyone.

nicoleg1982

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[QUOTE] "punching kids in the face for no good reason" 
Posted by Wifezzilla[/QUOTE]

<div>That's how I dealt with the pacifier issue.</div>

zsazsa-stl

I think they are confusing parenting with BFFing. 

blush64

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[QUOTE]"Spanking causes fear of parents", says the Today show. No sht. That's the point, morons.  They're also calling the segment "Most effective ways to discipline your child". Which is amazing: I didn't know they knew my child! 
Posted by baconsmom[/QUOTE]

I don't spank my kids, never have and never will. I don't believe in it. They are very well-behaved and great kids who are very respectful of adults and others.

Some people spank and their kids are great some don't and their kids are great. I think it just depends on what works for you and your family.

I hate when people swear you MUST spank your kids or that kids who are spanked are better. It's jsut as unfair when people say spanking should NOT be used.

I would prefer my kids respect me rather than fear me. Fear is not respect. (although they can do both) My kids are now in their teens. I plan on having mroe and they will not be spanked either.

I never feared my parents and I still didn't misbehave. (nothing serious anyway)

blush64

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[QUOTE]i think the problem is not that spanking is always good. sure, not every kid needs a swat on the behind. the problem is that there are people who firmly believe that spanking is ALWAYS bad and there are no proper ways to incorporate a spank into parenting.
Posted by Wifezzilla[/QUOTE]

<strong>Ok, I get that. I agree</strong> that some people (many people) do incorporate spanking into their discipline and it works great for them. My sister is one of them. She has always spanked her kids when needed and her kids do not fear her but are well behaved and loving kids.

I just think this is an issue where people need to realize that there is no one right way to do things. It's too bad. I am so used to hearing we must do one thing or we  must do the other and I hate it.