Hey guys. I am back at work. My mom was upset that I booked that flight and wanted to go to her visit. I think she was upset that I made a decision without her and she is desperately trying to control what little she can in her life. I also think she is having some anger and I am a nice easy target: I'm far away, I'm the oldest and I am strong. All of this was going down over passive-aggressive texts.
I told her that I was coming, she could decide when and she could tell me when she was ready to call me because I am done with the texts.
I called her the next night and we talked. In one of her messages she said that I hadn't told her what was going on with my and Tony's appts, so just let her concentrate on her's. Ugh...So it forced my hand to tell her what is going on. I told her to keep it to herself because no one else in the family knows.
I called both of my sisters up to tell them, so mom won't have the added pressure of keeping a secret. So, there's that. I am still planning on going, even if mom won't let me go to the visit.
She says she doesn't want anyone there and she will share what she wants when she decides she wants to....just like every appt she has had in her life. I told her that her life isn't the same anymore.And while this appt and the treatment are very moch about her, we all have a vested interest in the outcome and as much as we need to respect her, she needs to respect us.
So, there is that.
H continues to be supportive. Boss is OOT. I have asked the asst to tell her I need to speak with her about a personal matter and to please call me when she has some availbility. cws all agree she will be very supportive, but she'll want to know everything. Whatever, as long as I get what I need.
Thanks guys for being here for me. To allow me to vent into the invisible interwebz. I have decided makeup application is obsolete for a while. So I have a naked face right now. Parents are shielding their children's eyes on the streets.
