Beating my head against a wall

6fsn

I've told MIL she needs a lawyer. DH has told her she needs a lawyer.  She sent an e-mail that they were meeting with a financial planner.  I told her she needs a lawyer.  She said the meeting with the planner went well, but she needs to get some new LEGAL documents drawn up and signed- a new will, power of attorney, trust documents.  She doesn't know who to go to (she was meaning in general, not that she doesn't know which specific lawyer).  If BIL talks her into using legalzoom I'm going to need a lawyer.

I was going to mentiion medical power of attorney to her, but I'm a little scared she'll appoint stupid SIL to that.  I'd bet a buck BIL is the executor of the estate.

mrsconn23

How did Mr. 6 escapt seemingly unscathed from this madness to go on and have a decent job, life, marriage, etc.?  Or was there a lot of training involved on your part?

Anyhoodle, if no one will listen, just make sure that the whole lot of morons can't affect you financially.

6fsn

I think part of it was because the mr was older (like 6) when they got divorced.  He remembers the fighting that BIL doesn't.  BIL tends to think it's all FIL's fault and therefore didn't want to learn anything from FIL.  DH knows it was mutual and a lot more about FIL's childhood.  DH recognizes that FIL shows love differently and is willing to learn.  BIL is also babied a lot.

I've already told DH that I'm not risking our future on this. 

**O-Face**

If you tell her one thing...and she doesn't do it, there is nothing you can do.  Besides vent and then say "I told you so.".

MinM

In my experience, the harder you push for medical power of attorney, the more someone assumes you want them dead so you can roll around in all of their (real or imagined) cash.

Step away from the crazy.

VarunaTT

There are attorneys who specialize in elder care, 6.  She should just be able to open her Yellow Pages to the attorneys section and then Elder Care.  They will be able to guide them into the proper documents and how to get them.

Whether or not they'll listen is a whole 'nother matter.  Shoot, MIL wouldn't do it until it was >this close< to too late and now is all paranoid and asks me what my parents have done for their elderly care.  *side-eye* lady, where do you think I learned all of this planning for the future stuff?