Continuing on the matchy match tuxedo theme...

zsazsa-stl

...since most of us are several years past our weddings (or several years before our next, however you want to look at it) is there anything that you did that you now think was tacky?  Any current trend that you really wish had been around when you were getting married?


Me:  I'm 100% with Kuus on the colored vest thing.  We did normal, black tuxedos but if I had it all to do over again I would let people wear dark suits.  I would also let the bridesmaids do whatever the hell dress they wanted, but 6 years ago that wasn't as common and I was terrified of looking like a grab bag of wedding apparel.  I also would go with a less formal dress for myself, maybe.  And I wish mustache favors/photos had been popular then.  I would have enjoyed that.

Also, I was straddling the 2nd wedding issue with H and not wanting to be too over-the-top beebee things but at the same time it was my first wedding, damnit, and I was in my 20s and wanted a bit of beebee in fear that I would regret missing my chance forever more.

~~Busy.~~

Honestly, I would have crashed my coctail hour.  That's about it.

ReturnOfKuus

If I were doing it over again, I'd probably have a dress that was a little more elaborate.  Or maybe I'd turn into George Banks again and pick something super-simple and easy to make so that neither labor nor materials would cost much, and have everything exactly the same as it was the first time because I'm a cheapskate.  Eh.  I'm not particularly displeased with my choices, overall.

nicoleg1982

Wants:  Less formal ceremony, more party.  More booze.  More food.  More fun.  More sex.  Immediate honeymoon.

Less:  Paper - no programs, menus, table #s, etc.  Family (mmhmm, you know I'm right about this).  Restrictive, excessive foundation garments.

However, it's all a distant memory at this point and I doubt that I'll ever walk down the aisle again.  Who knows though?  (And NOLA, don't you dare say God).

MNNEBride

I would go with a different photographer.  Candid (not sure if that is the right term) wedding photos and professional digital cameras were just coming in to play here at that time.   While my photographer did use digital for my wedding, all the shots are posed and traditional.

nicoleg1982

Other re-do wish:  New husband/mate.

zsazsa-stl

lol @ Nico

S/O...do you plan to keep your wedding pictures?  H's ex very intentionally left the wedding album when she moved out.  H was going to toss it when he cleaned out his storage unit but I made him keep it.  Sure, I wouldn't advocate him tearily pouring through it once a month, but I think it should be kept as a major part of his personal history and/or fashion legacy.

hmonkey

nico, keep them and give them to your daughter.

TheDuckis

I don't think I'd change any of the decisions I made, but I think I'd be more explicit with the instructions I gave to our vendors.

Our photographer didn't do any outdoor shots of just me and H, and by the time he finished all the group shots we were so hot we just wanted to get to the reception.

Our site coordinator tried to keep us out of our own cocktail hour because "we needed some time to ourselves." By the time I won the argument, there were only 5 minutes left before they opened the reception room.

And our band, though I loved them, brought along an Elvis impersonator to sing some of the older songs we'd requested. I told them I was fine with paying for an extra back-up singer but I didn't want him to actually impersonate Elvis. He did anyway. 

loveshine1

I would probably have done something smaller. And I would have picked a separate venue for the rehearsal dinner. Everything else was great. Everyone looked great, food was great, music was great.

Oh I would have eaten more cake.

AuntFlo

I would have had a different dress, a coordinator who knew what the hell they were doing, and I wouldn't have invited coworkers/employers/employees.

hmonkey

as much as i love my dress, i would have bought that jcrew daphne dress as soon as i saw it.

NOLABridesmaid

God, God, God, God.

*Barbie*

things that i now know are tacky ...have you seen my cake?




next time (if necessary) i'm getting a wedding cheesecake. the cake was yummy (each one was a different flavor combo) but i don't even like ckae, and it was way too big.


I wouldn't change anything - yeah, some stuff was over the top, but i gave over most of the planning to ILs, and they went a bit nutty. i'd maybe go with a different photog. i wasn't fully happy with his pics - but day of, everything was fantastic.

nicoleg1982

Yes, I have all of the photos.  IDK if xH has any at all.  I took the framed, the scanned, the digitals, the proofs and the albums.  It's important to me to have them for DD.  I have programs, STD cards, rsvp cards, etc. that she will get, too.

ReturnOfKuus

You know what I'd do?  I'd bring some Gladware to take home reception leftovers.  There was way too much food left.

*Barbie*

you didn't take home the leftovers? MIL was giving them away to her neighbors, people at work, etc. we would have taken some but left for our honeymoon the day after the wedding.

Cant_wait!

I'd have HAD a wedding.

loveshine1

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[QUOTE]as much as i love my dress, i would have bought that jcrew daphne dress as soon as i saw it.
Posted by hmonkey[/QUOTE]

Your wedding dress was lovely, but you would have looked amazing in the Daphne dress as well. I love it.

DG1

IDK that I would have changed too much.

Different photog, maybe. Different cake design, though I don't think mine was particularly tacky.

I would have done a mypublisher/shutterfly-type guest book and put it in a different place and/or had a guest book attendant, because hardly anyone signed what we did have.

IDK. I liked our favors, our programs, my dress, our venue.  I wish we could've had better food and a full open bar instead of just beer/wine/soda. but damn we already spent a lot of money, and we only had 75 guests. I guess we could have gone smaller, but there wasn't a lot of fat to trim, guest-wise.

LizziebeeUT

My first wedding, we focused SO much on cutting costs that I didn't get anything I wanted.

There's not so much stuff that I'm going "ok, this time I want to do this, this, and this"

Its more like "wow, I actually have a FI who wants a nice wedding, is patient, and excited to plan things with me"

The only thing I am instisting on is a nicer dress, and a cascade bouquet (I let my sister talk me out of it the first time, and I hated it lol)