Just relieved???

christieep

Getting ready for my wedding has created so much stress that my fiance and I are just waiting for it to be over and think the day after the wedding will be better than the actual day.  We've both been pretty flexible about all issues but nothing seems to please our families.  Anyone else just looking for it to be over?  How do you deal with it?  I really really want to enjoy this process and most of all the day I get to marry the love of my life, but I am to the point of avoiding wedding discussion because of the discontent it causes. Suggestions for pushing aside the negativity and helping me relax?  I just think it is really sad that I can't wait for the wedding to be over.

DG1

Yep. I'd just avoid wedding discussions.  Don't bring it up, and if someone else does, just say "everything's going great, thanks! I don't want to jinx it by talking too much."  Then stop talking about it.

Also, unless they are paying, keep in mind that no one else has a say.  You can't please everyone, and trying to do so will only create stress & headaches for you.  Do what you want to, and find a polite way to tell everyone else to shove it.

Butter Cookie

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[QUOTE]Getting ready for my wedding has created so much stress that my fiance and I are just waiting for it to be over and think the day after the wedding will be better than the actual day.  We've both been pretty flexible about all issues but nothing seems to please our families.  Anyone else just looking for it to be over?  How do you deal with it?  I really really want to enjoy this process and most of all the day I get to marry the love of my life, but I am to the point of avoiding wedding discussion because of the discontent it causes. Suggestions for pushing aside the negativity and helping me relax?  I just think it is really sad that I can't wait for the wedding to be over.
Posted by christieep[/QUOTE]


Unfortunately not everybody enjoys this process. You're looking forward to the marriage though, right? As long as you're looking forward to the marriage you're good. As for families - just tell them to back off. Sometimes they mean well but are appalled when they realize they're putting so much pressure on you. You can be nice about it, but it shouldn't be *this* stressful to plan what is, in essence, a party.

arbolita

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[QUOTE]get a massage. go on dates. <strong>do stuff that isn't wedding related</strong>. at least if you're not trying to obsess over all of the details, you'll be able to enjoy yourself on your wedding day than someone who lives, eats, sleeps and breathes the wedding details.
Posted by Wifezzilla[/QUOTE]

I completely agree with the part I bolded.  If it seems like you are constantly stressing about the wedding, you need to make sure that you have at least one day a week that is completely free from anything wedding related, and do something that you enjoy. 

TheDuckis

I totally looked forward to the day after then wedding more than the wedding itself. I ended up loving my wedding, and loving the day after even more. Just realize that the marriage is more important to you, and the wedding details that seem so earthshattering right now won't be such a big deal.