Wedding Woes

Re: cheap fmil

  • loveshine1loveshine1 member
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    edited December 2011
    You realize that no one is obligated to give you ANY money towards your wedding, right?

    It's very generous that your parents are paying for the bulk of it, but it's not their obligation, nor is it your FI's family's obligation.


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  • hmonkeyhmonkey member
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    edited December 2011
    i cannot stop laughing at your screen name.  i'm going to be a minute.
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  • **O-Face****O-Face** member
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    edited December 2011
    Usually a wedding is a sign of adulthood.  Unfortunately in your case, you are not ready.

    No one owes you any money.  />:(
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  • **O-Face****O-Face** member
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    edited December 2011
    Also is your fiance french?
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  • edited December 2011
    of course i know no one is obligated but if I was attending someone's wedding I personally would give them at least 50$ gift as a minimum. to someone I didn't know well. not to mention my sons wedding. But i suppose that simply my principle and not everyones
  • **O-Face****O-Face** member
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    edited December 2011
    But that's assuming she has a similar financial situation to your's which may not be true.  And if she doesn't like you (which you are insinuating) you are lucky to get $10.
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  • LnR70707LnR70707 member
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    edited December 2011
    Um, my BMs chipped in and got me a giftcard together for my shower.  They have to pay for sh!tload of other stuff to be in your wedding, expecting an expensive gift on top of that is little much.
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  • GBCKGBCK member
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    edited December 2011
    i feel like I'm being overly concerned with money

    Run with that thought--because you ARE being overly concerned with money.
    You do NOT know the details of these peole's financial situations--nor SHOULD you--it's their damn money, they can spend it however they want.  THe fact that YOU would choose to spend $x amount means that that's what you would choose to do--it has no bearing on their decision.

    Truly, everything about this post makes you sound like a selfish twit.  And quit discussing your MIL's finances w/ your mom--it's not MOM"s business either.
  • HeffalumpHeffalump member
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    edited December 2011
    Wow, entitled much?

    You sound like you're sitting there with an accounting ledger, tallying it all up.  Don't you have anything better to do with your time than calculate who owes you what?

    And your mom?  Let's just say it doesn't sound like the apple fell far from the tree.
  • edited December 2011
    No she definetly likes me a lot. She gives her son who doesnt work, whos 24, probably about 50$ a week. So she's not in a horrible financial situation. But thank you for calling me a child.
  • HeffalumpHeffalump member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_cheap-fmil?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:47Discussion:82095024-2263-4209-9802-30ce4f110052Post:328a30a0-9eb9-414c-9ee9-7c082e90d26d">Re: Cheap FMIL</a>:
    [QUOTE]No she definetly likes me a lot. She gives her son who doesnt work, whos 24, probably about 50$ a week. So she's not in a horrible financial situation. But thank you for calling me a child.
    Posted by evanescencex0x[/QUOTE]

    Well, thanks for acting like one.  Now go sit in time out.
  • mrsconn23mrsconn23 member
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    edited December 2011
    So are you going to play t!t-for-tat your entire married life?  If so, I see a long life ahead of you and your FI.  I feel sorry for him.
  • **O-Face****O-Face** member
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    edited December 2011
    Wait, if she's giving your FI $50 a week, consider that part of your wedding gift.
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  • edited December 2011
    um, obviously shes not giving that to my fiance
  • mrsconn23mrsconn23 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_cheap-fmil?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:82095024-2263-4209-9802-30ce4f110052Post:3f1a16c9-4d45-49cc-b282-8cccf7f114ae">Re: Cheap FMIL</a>:
    [QUOTE]um, obviously shes not giving that to my fiance
    Posted by evanescencex0x[/QUOTE]

    And obviously, you're bitter about that.
  • **O-Face****O-Face** member
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    edited December 2011
    Oh, I assumed it was the same child.  my bag.

    My advice: Let it go.  It's only going to cause undue stress, because you can't control what FMIL does.
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  • HeffalumpHeffalump member
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    edited December 2011
    Did it ever occur to you that if she's giving her unemployed son $50/week, she might not have a lot left over to buy you a crockpot or whatever?

    She'd probably rather spend it on him than on her self-centered FDIL.
  • loveshine1loveshine1 member
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    edited December 2011
    Again, as annoyed as you may be, it is NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS how many member of your family spends their money.

    You're going to be wasting a lot of time and energy on this if you don't stop being so entitled.

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  • hmonkeyhmonkey member
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    edited December 2011
    why did you dd?  are you ashamed? 

    too bad you can't change your screen name, too.
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  • mrsconn23mrsconn23 member
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    edited December 2011
    Wow, DD-ing because no one agreed with you and your rant is really the way to show us that you're all mature and grown up.  Klassy.
  • hmonkeyhmonkey member
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    edited December 2011

    run, richard, run!

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  • Butter CookieButter Cookie member
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    edited December 2011
    Next time (and there will be a next time) marry someone whose family is rich.

    YWIA!
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  • Butter CookieButter Cookie member
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    edited December 2011
    For any latecomers let me fill you in on the rant:

    My future mother in law owes me at LEAST 1K because I'm marrying her son! Mom said so! Tell me I'm right and they're horrible people!
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  • HeffalumpHeffalump member
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    edited December 2011
    Bmom always remembers to save them.  I need to start doing that.
  • fishgirl77fishgirl77 member
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    edited December 2011
    Dang, I didn't know I was missing out on extra cash by not having a MIL.
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