I'm getting so frustrated!

sailorstexasangel

My fiancee is on deployment and I'm getting upset because I can't just sit down and talk to him about this and give him every single pro and con of each idea I have. I have no idea when, where, who, or what.
Our families and friends live on opposite sides of the country, and I would REALLY prefer to just have an all inclusive wedding. I like the idea of a cruise, but I honestly don't feel like waiting until June to get married. And I don't even know how to tell him that. Sigh. Help?

Hilraythebride

Thats what TK boards are here for!  It isn't the same as your FI but the ladies on here try to give good advice and have experience as some are married and most are planning.

Also, only you can really decide what type of wedding is best for you.  Are you getting married this June?  If so I would start planning because it is coming up fast.  Most vendors and venues get booked up in June because it is a very popular month.

Just some advice though, if everyone is really on opposite sides of the country and would have to pay to get to where the wedding is, I would consider a DW.  That way people can go and actually get to enjoy the weather and everything instead of just going to someones hometown.  If it were me I would have a problem deciding where to have it because I wouldn't want anyone to think I was playing favorites so certain people wouldn't have to pay money to get there.

sailorstexasangel

I'm getting used to the lingo... what is a DW? I am really only having my parents and my sisters come (one sister and my parents live in Tx, the other sister lives in Mi), I really only want a very small wedding. Like... Immediate family and their significant others small. His family is from Boston and we live in Fl, but his sister also lives here. I'm just confused and frustrated.
Also, we're planning for next June. He gets back in July. I really wanted September, but he thought that was too soon. For whatever reason, I don't, so I'm kind of frustrated over that. Before we got engaged, I suggested that we get married and just not tell anyone and then have a wedding, but even the meer suggestion of it made me feel like crap because he's so close to his family. I even went as far as picking out a dress and buying it just in case (it's functional for things as well). I don't even know why I want to get married to him so fast... I just love him I guess. <insert big sigh here />

melntaitt

DW = Destination wedding luv.

Have some fun with the process since you have 12+ months to go. One of the things I found fun when I was first engaged was going to those wedding extravaganzas and a Macy's "sip and scan" for the registry. I might be in the minority but I hate wedding planning and those were the two things I truly enjoyed.
Just remember that at the end of the road, it's going to be an occasion for your families to get together and celebrate your union.

PP is right, btw - if there are so many people travelling anyway, a DW is probably a good idea.

tawillers

If he's deployed, how much earlier could you really get married?  You said the wedding is in June but didn't specify the year.

Try to keep in mind that he will want some time to adjust when he returns home.  I wouldn't push a bunch of chaos on him right when he gets back.

Also, the military board might have some good advice for you.

sailorstexasangel

He gets back in June of this year and he wants to get married in June of next year. I'm wanting August/September/October area of this year because I love fall and I want to encorporate sunflowers (my favorite flower) into the wedding, but getting married in the fall the best time of year to do that. He's really wanting the cruise wedding and I'm finding that is the best option for us because we don't have that much wiggle room budget wise anyways.
I hate wedding planning as well. It is awful. But registering is already my favorite part:D