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Aquaintance playing at wedding and wants to bring his girlfriend - no room for her!

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I've deleted this question. Hope it makes you all piss your pants with excitement.
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Re: Aquaintance playing at wedding and wants to bring his girlfriend - no room for her!

  • hmonkeyhmonkey member
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    edited December 2011
    [QUOTE]Ok, the subject doesn't do this post justice...I'll try to keep this looooong story short. [/QUOTE]
    too late.

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    But did I shoot myself in the foot by inviting my ex-friend to the wedding? Should I just let him bring her? Especially since he's offering to foot the bill (I doubt I'll take him up on that)?
    ...
    What do I do!?!?  Can I tell him no? and if so HOW do I tell him no without it really being hurtful?
    Posted by keloucks[/QUOTE]

    yes, you should not have invited him.  you knew that by inviting him, you were also inviting drama because HE is drama.
    just say there is no room at the venue for her.  that is what the title of your post says, and that sounds legit.
    you cannot guarantee he will not be hurt, but that's <strong>his</strong> feelings to control, not for you to control.
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  • LnR70707LnR70707 member
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    edited December 2011
    The entire first paragraph was totally unecessary.

    If other guests are invited with a guest, he gets one too.  If not, just explain that one else is permitted to bring a guest and you need to keep it fair across the board.
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  • hmonkeyhmonkey member
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    edited December 2011
    wait -- is he a guest, or is he a vendor?  are you paying him to sing?
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  • ReturnOfKuusReturnOfKuus member
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    edited December 2011
    Pay him as a vendor.  Then he doesn't get a date.  Problem solved, friendship ended.
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  • ReturnOfKuusReturnOfKuus member
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    edited December 2011
    Then tell him no date.  People aren't entitled to their own guest lists to someone else's party, you know.
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  • kelouckskeloucks
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    edited December 2011
    I see what you mean about not inviting her just because I have a bad opinion of her. However, she came to a picnic we just had this weeks because some old friends were in town and she acted the same way she has always acted. Dramatic and also trying to draw attention to herself. The planning to have babies at the same time as me thing happened that night also.

    I was invited to a reception when I was a musician at the couple's wedding. It was just a gesture that they made because they weren't able to pay me much and because they wanted me to know my services were appreciated. The videographer, officiant, other musician, dj, and photographer are all going to be at the reception and they're all getting dinner. Their significant others (if they had one) were not invited though. Isn't that just the way it is with vendors? You pay them, invite them to the reception for dinner and that's it? Isn't he being a bit presumptuous?
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  • ReturnOfKuusReturnOfKuus member
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    edited December 2011
    This is a common peeve on this board (and in life too) - people tell you this long-winded story full of irrelevant information, and then forget to ask the question to which they want an answer.  Your question is "Ho do I politely tell a vendor who was once a friend that he can't bring a date?"  Easy, simple, and sympathetic.
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  • ReturnOfKuusReturnOfKuus member
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    edited December 2011
    No one is upset.  People are just annoyed that you asked whether you could tell a sort of maybe friend or maybe vendor not to bring his girlfriend that you dislike for various reasons and answered accordingly, and then it turned out that this wasn't the question at all.  If you don't ask what you actually want to know, then the replies are going to be useless to you.
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  • GBCKGBCK member
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    edited December 2011
    and now they're annoyed you're playing the "fine, *stomp foot*, I"m taking my post and going home" bit.

    (which is absurldy ineffective to do when your text is still within the post...so, guess what?  you didn't delete the information, you didn't end the discussion.  You just look like a butthurt teenager)
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  • hmonkeyhmonkey member
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    edited December 2011
    i pee when i sneeze.  peeing: it's not just for excitement anymore!
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  • jmarkertjmarkert member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm the ex-bestfriend  that ended up being completely uninvited from this wedding. It sucks that I randomly came across this post. ouch.
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  • mrsconn23mrsconn23 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_aquaintance-playing-wedding-wants-bring-his-girlfriend-room-her?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:87eab054-50f3-4b9d-b438-5930f6081da0Post:b085b771-1d2b-4fcb-a9f0-df5d6b2e6136">Re: Aquaintance playing at wedding and wants to bring his girlfriend - no room for her!</a>:
    [QUOTE]I'm the ex-bestfriend  that ended up being completely uninvited from this wedding. It sucks that I randomly came across this post. ouch.
    Posted by jmarkert[/QUOTE]

    Oh please share your side.  Please!
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