another potentially unpopular opinion

MinM

It makes me irrationally pissed that my sister wears what appears to be a wedding ring on her left hand ring finger.

She did this with her ex and now with new BF.

Why do I care? I don't know. I mean, they have talked about getting married, so I guess it is an engagement ring...

Her exBF referred to her as his wife (in a card I saw once) so I guess wearing his rings makes sense, too. However, she was never legally married to this guy but her name on FB had his last name....(I know...it's fuckingFB, who cares)

I don't know. It pisses me off because it is a sham, or something. To me, it cheapens what I have with H, which is a LEGAL marriage with a contract and consequences all of that jazz. It isn't playing house with a shiny ring.

(I promise as I get some distance from this visit, I'll stop whining about my sisters. I do envy only children).

**O-Face**

It's lying, that is why you don't like it.  I guess I'd be pissed too.  Just sayin'.

hmonkey

again, i don't understand why people are all het up about gay weddings and not about common law weddings.  common law is simply a waiting game -- been together long enough but haven't made any kind of commitment or plan or anything like that?  okay, good as married.  NO IT'S NOT.

i also hate it "if you're planning a wedding, you're engaged" when someone doesn't know if they are engaged or not.  YOU ARE NOT ENGAGED JUST BECAUSE YOU ARE PLANNING A WEDDING.  there doesn't have to be a formal proposal but there has to be some kind of discussion about whether you are getting married, dillholes.

and while i'm here, i will also hate one everyone who suggests all-clad as the best cookware.  morons who are just cooking hamburger helper do not need a $365 saute pan.  it's all very "a poor carpenter blames his tools." 

mrsconn23

I love Cool Whip. 

You need to add some strawberries to your Entemann's/Cool Whip confection and then you'll really have a party in your mouth.

**O-Face**

I haven't had cool whip in a long time.  *pout*

I love iced coffee, but wtf would you charge more for an iced than a regular?  Seriously...it's coffee over ice.  And I'm not talking cold brew, but even if I was...same difference...DUH!

~~Busy.~~

"it cheapens what I have with H"

This is why. I agree completely.

KatyRoseM

Common law marriage is not a waiting game.  You have to intend to be married but just not go through the formalities.  In fact if your sister is in a state with common law marriage she may be legally married to the first BF. 

bandjwedding2012

Here in my state common law is very easy to get into. Because we have acknowledge each other as husband and wife in front of other people, and because we share some bills we are common law married. We've only lived together a year and are engaged and planning but it's fairly simple. But if we were to seperate at this point, we may have to go through an actual divorce. If we had kids or say I wanted half his crap I could take it to divorce court. I think it's a kind of dumb but it does have it's advantages. He's apart of a union and has amazing health care. Because we're considered common law, I get to be on his insurance and that rocks.
   We are planning a wedding though and very much engaged. I sounds silly that your sister is faking it though. I guess I don't see the point. If they want to get married they should just say so and do it. That's my opinion though.

VarunaTT

I don't think faking you're married cheapens anyone's marriage.  If anything, it just goes to show how socially important being married really is.  It's sad that the only way she can get that lift is by faking it.

The only thing that cheapens anyone's marriage is the two people involved in it.

Wicked515

My friend is engaged, and already calls her fiance her Husband. I guess that's ok, but unless vows are said and what not, I can't call my fiance my Husband. It doesn't feel right to me...