WDYT?

**O-Face**

I have a friend who while she loves her bf, feels that he is no longer the best match for her.  Of course she has kind of come to this conclusion over time, but continues to push her BF to be the man that she thought he was.  Motivated, self-starting, active, etc.

While talking over the weekend we had the discussion that if H wasn't doing it for me in the bedroom department, I wouldnt' have it.  I of course would work with him, etc, but that it would be a dealbreaker.  Friend agreed, but said that her BF thought this was wrong.  Um, no.

What are your thoughts?

6fsn

It's a dealbreaker.  However if things seemed to have changed I'd work harder.

nicoleg1982

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[QUOTE]I have a friend who while she loves her bf, feels that he is no longer the best match for her.
Posted by **O-Face**[/QUOTE]

<div>I'm not sure why the conversation continued after this was realized.</div><div>
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**O-Face**

I don't think she's come to that realization 100%, and really I love her BF and she does, but I don't think it will work, unless he finds somethings that she feels he has "lost".

GBCK

I think there's a degree of 'why not working' to take into account.
But a problem that someone's not willing to work to fix = dealbreaker, IMO

**O-Face**

Currently it's studying for the MBA program.  But sometimes I just think shes a MAJOR nagger and has crazy expectations.

MinM

Dude, me and my BF have this (practically) same converation every few months. She loves her BF but doesn't know if he is her husband. Mind you, they have been dating as long as H and I have been dating, engaged and married. I feel like she needs to sh1t or get off the pot, but apparently she loves loves loves having this conversation because we do it all the damntime. Now, I just let her go. My input is never going to be considered....so I just let her talk.

People be crazy, is what I think. Oh, and fvck that fvcing casserole is what I say, too.

**O-Face**

*draws MinM+Oface in heart bubble*

Thank you.

I try to reason with her.  But it doesn't work.  BLAH BLAH BLAH.  It's annoying.

nicoleg1982

I have a g/f that cannot figure out her man problems.  She has nutso expectations she never communicates, and is attracted to the most strange qualities while overlooking the red flags.  Fck, I'm guilty of that, too, at times.  But she takes it to whole new level.  I just let her ramble on - she'll never see it.

**O-Face**

I just hate the way they communicate, it's always this crazy banter that borders on fighting.  I'd say about 80% of the time I'm around him.  Their tones drive me batty.  But obviously it works for them....kind of.

MinM

It is annoying. And I like him well enough, too. However, I lean towards him not being the one, but I never ever ever say that. It might break H's heart. Her BF and H are besties. We caught them braiding each other's hair once.