Wedding Woes

Jealous Bridesmaid

From the moment I've gotten engaged, I've had a best friend who has been trying to make it all about herself. When I invited all of them to lunch to anounce my engagement and ask them to be my bridesmaid, the first thing out of her mouth was "When is your wedding date because we're planning to get married in May too." Keep in mind she is no where close to being engaged, there were no hints or talks about her engagement/wedding until she found out I was engaged. Her boyfriend hasn't even asked her yet and has made it clear that it will not be anytime soon. Ever since then every thing we do has to be about her... We go wedding dress shopping and she starts shopping for her own dress... When my other bridesmaids talks about what they want to do for my bachlorette party, her input is what she would like to do for hers. It's getting to the point now where she is already calling his parents her in-laws and uses his last name with hers. I just needed to vent and also wanted to see if any other brides have dealt with similar situations and what their advice is. Is there a nice way of telling her to stop?

Re: Jealous Bridesmaid

  • Unfortunately, situations like this often end up with women no longer being friends.  I, and likely every other poster on this website, suggest that you stop talking wedding AT ALL with this friend.  No "I like these colors" or "I can't wait for the honeymoon".  Nothing.  Give it a few weeks and see how your friendship goes.  If that doesn't work, I think you have a problem on your hands with the friendship entirely.

    I had the reverse problem once...a friend got engaged very quickly after beginning to date her husband, and proceeded to tell me how much more in love, how much closer, how much more serious, blah blah blah, that they were than us.  Mind you, we had three years under our belt and they had less than a year.  Make sure you aren't being like my friend.
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    Previously Alaynajuliana


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